Who made me the grown up?

**2wheeldrifter** · 21st July 2010, 07:55

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure

Condolences to you....

**NZsarge** · 21st July 2010, 08:01

Please pass on my condolences to Mom, despite what ever difficulties one has with ones parents when they depart this mortal coil it's got to be one of the very hardest times one will ever have to endure in ones life. Thinking of you guys....
Sarge.

**Nasty** · 21st July 2010, 08:34

Thoughts are with you guys and the kids at this time. Tis a sad time to loose someone so loved, and a hard time to get the head around. You are all in my thoughts.

**MSTRS:Me** · 21st July 2010, 08:49

As always, there aren't really any words.
Condolences to you both, esp Anne.

**Her_C4** · 21st July 2010, 08:59

Condolances, my thoughts are with you

**mashman** · 21st July 2010, 16:25

sorry to hear about your Mum Mom... my condolences to you and the rest of the family...

**Foxzee** · 21st July 2010, 16:42

Our thoughts are with you both and your family...never an easy time

**Mom** · 21st July 2010, 19:57

Some of you will be aware of how sick my Mother has been in recent times, and just how much of a worrying and stressful time it has been. You know it is 11 years since she first got sick? So I have had plently of time to prepare myself for her passing. Strangest thing, I am shocked to the core about how fast it happened. She obviously did NOT want to come up here and go into care. She has been living alone for the past 10 years since my step Dad had his stroke, and has had some really close brushes with her maker and survived. I have been very worried that she would die alone and suffering, worst for me was alone. It was her call though and I respected that until she was not managing.

If I could have planned and executed (an unfortunate word really) her death I could not have done it better. Her family got there to wish her a safe a speedy journey, and were able to sit and keep her company and comfortable as she reached the end of her life. The doctors and nurses looking after her were amazing, some off duty nurses coming to say goodbye when they heard she was nearing the end. Tears and hugs were the order of the day as we all helped her move to the peace she so richly deserves.

I can not thank the staff at Thames Hospital enough for the care they have extended her over the years, but particularly over the past month. To be met by the nurse caring for your Mother with a hug and tears is something to be treasured indeed. The end came in such a calm and peaceful way, it took a while to register she was not actually with us anymore, a special journey to share with your Mother. Towards the end I said to my eldest daughter that I thought it would not be much longer, and I asked if she wanted to sit on my knee, she came over and we shared the lazy boy and cuddly blanket as we wished the little lady Gods Speed. Precious moments.

Thank you to all of you for your love and support. Your messages have given me such comfort today. I will be putting my Mommy to her final rest on Saturday afternoon.

I do my thing
And you do your thing
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations
And you are not in this world to live up to mine
You are you
And I am I
And if by chance we find each other
It's beautiful

Hug your loved ones for me, for all too soon you will lose them.

**Ronin** · 21st July 2010, 20:07

Condolences to you and your family Anne.

**Fatt Max** · 21st July 2010, 20:30

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time Anne

There are never enough words

Mark, Jackie and Max

**GOONR** · 21st July 2010, 21:16

Condolences to Anne and all of the family.

**crazyhorse** · 21st July 2010, 21:27

Originally Posted by Mom

I do my thing
And you do your thing
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations
And you are not in this world to live up to mine
You are you
And I am I
And if by chance we find each other
It's beautiful

Hug your loved ones for me, for all too soon you will lose them.

That is lovely Anne

Even though as you say you have had years to prepare for this, reality is often harder than we think.

to you all