Pregnancy and motorcycling

**007XX** · 29th June 2010, 17:06

Originally Posted by R-Soul

Frankly if thatS what it would take, then I would stop riding. There is nothing that I would not do for my kids.

However, I would think that she is being a little unreasonable in that there is not reason for me to stop. And I would argue it....

Agreed re: nothing I wouldn't do for my kids...I'm the same.

And as far as being unreasonable goes, trust me, you don't know the half of it ... hormones are an utter bitch that way! And no, I do not pack all unreasonable behaviour on the back of that hormonal bugbear alone, but it sure as hell plays a huge part.

But trying to remain fair for all sides here, and if we look at it from the hypothetical relation of (let's call them John and Jane to save anybody too sensitive on here) two realtively normal individuals, on the basis that both equally love riding motorbikes, it's their mental escape, yadiya yadiya...

John and Jane are finally expecting their first child...hurray, happy happy, joy joy right?

Then all of a sudden John gets very protective because heck! He's going to be a Daddy...and fair enough too!

If he was to turn around and declare that his wife can no longer do the one thing she has been loving for sucha long time, how would that go down?

Same goes for Jane declaring that hubby is now responsible for the future paternal happiness of the unborn child and therefor is in no way to put himself in harms way, or that it is frankly unfair that not only has she got to sacrifice her job, the shape of her body, go through a non negligible amount of pain when she'll give birth, but she has also to be told and suffer the indignity of being told she can't ride anymore.

My point? Maybe it is down to making a compromise and discussing the issue making sure that both parties get a fair say, and that the RESPECT for each other is maintained throughout. Otherwise, I wouldn't like to be in that relationship personally... Hubby and I decide everything together, and we do compromise for each other, but if one was to feel strongly enough about something that he/she was not prepared to compromise, then the other person would just respect that decision

We all have to remain thinking, functioning individuals, even if we are one of a pair.

**R-Soul** · 30th June 2010, 09:11

Originally Posted by 007XX

Agreed re: nothing I wouldn't do for my kids...I'm the same.

And as far as being unreasonable goes, trust me, you don't know the half of it ... hormones are an utter bitch that way! And no, I do not pack all unreasonable behaviour on the back of that hormonal bugbear alone, but it sure as hell plays a huge part.

But trying to remain fair for all sides here, and if we look at it from the hypothetical relation of (let's call them John and Jane to save anybody too sensitive on here) two realtively normal individuals, on the basis that both equally love riding motorbikes, it's their mental escape, yadiya yadiya...

John and Jane are finally expecting their first child...hurray, happy happy, joy joy right?

Then all of a sudden John gets very protective because heck! He's going to be a Daddy...and fair enough too!

If he was to turn around and declare that his wife can no longer do the one thing she has been loving for sucha long time, how would that go down?

Same goes for Jane declaring that hubby is now responsible for the future paternal happiness of the unborn child and therefor is in no way to put himself in harms way, or that it is frankly unfair that not only has she got to sacrifice her job, the shape of her body, go through a non negligible amount of pain when she'll give birth, but she has also to be told and suffer the indignity of being told she can't ride anymore.

My point? Maybe it is down to making a compromise and discussing the issue making sure that both parties get a fair say, and that the RESPECT for each other is maintained throughout. Otherwise, I wouldn't like to be in that relationship personally... Hubby and I decide everything together, and we do compromise for each other, but if one was to feel strongly enough about something that he/she was not prepared to compromise, then the other person would just respect that decision

We all have to remain thinking, functioning individuals, even if we are one of a pair.

There seems to be some sort of idea on this thread on this thread of me chaining my woman to a post for her entire pregnancy, thats not true (well not the ENTIRE pregnancy anyway

). Hell, we even sit down and discuss things the way you described above even for relatively minor things (like me attending track days!). Where it affects both of us (be it finances, family or whatever) then it gets discussed, reasoned and compromised on.

The fact is that she actually took the decision entirely on her own (respect to her), and I did not even need to say a thing. But if I had to, I would not have dictated that "this is how its going to be". We would have sat down and discussed it an reasoned it out together respectfully, until she saw things my way....

This sounds like me dictating terms again doesn't it? But realistically for me there can only be one outcome of such a discussion - the other alternative is too serious for me to even contemplate compromising on.

Its like one of those minor things where I want to go do certain things (like a track day really soon after the last track day) where I know that realistically you just wont be able to get any compromise, and I have no hope in hell. She understands that this is one of thise times. And if it were the other way around, she would expect me to understand the same thing too.

**Lula** · 14th August 2010, 14:17

If you missed seeing my article on pregnancy and motorcycleing in the July 2010 issue of Motorcycle Trader magazine you can read it here:

http://www.motorcycletrader.co.nz/Vi...ancy/1216.aspx

**smoky** · 14th August 2010, 14:33

I didn't know you could get pregnant on a bike?

**dangerous** · 14th August 2010, 19:33

Originally Posted by Lula

If you missed seeing my article on pregnancy and motorcycleing in the July 2010 issue of Motorcycle Trader magazine you can read it here:

http://www.motorcycletrader.co.nz/Vi...ancy/1216.aspx

good shit, well written and dealt with sensibly

**Jonno.** · 15th August 2010, 15:27

Originally Posted by 007XX

If he was to turn around and declare that his wife can no longer do the one thing she has been loving for sucha long time, how would that go down?

Lets say Jane is a social drinking. Does she keep drinking? Does her husband need to tell her to stop whilst pregnant, if he does is he the devil?

Same goes for Jane declaring that hubby is now responsible for the future paternal happiness of the unborn child and therefor is in no way to put himself in harms way, or that it is frankly unfair that not only has she got to sacrifice her job, the shape of her body, go through a non negligible amount of pain when she'll give birth, but she has also to be told and suffer the indignity of being told she can't ride anymore.

Sounds to me like Jane has a variety of issues if she thinks that everything is John's "fault". Jane agreed to have children with John. If my wife pulled that kind of petty blackmail on me I would leave her.

**Lula** · 15th August 2010, 16:34

Originally Posted by dangerous

good shit, well written and dealt with sensibly

Thanks dangerous great to have the feedback

**R-Soul** · 17th August 2010, 16:54

Originally Posted by smoky

I didn't know you could get pregnant on a bike?

Depends which way you are riding.

**proseuche** · 24th August 2012, 11:52

I am getting shit for this. And I'm hardly even showing yet. I figure when I have to rest my belly on the tank and/or it affects my balance, I will stop of course. But until then will ride but no more lane splitting or dodgy maneuvering for me. Totally don't feel as though I'm being irresponsible! Husband/friends think differently. Anyone else been through this dilemma? The weather is just getting nice out - no fair. Should have planned pregnancy better. Sulk.

**unstuck** · 24th August 2012, 12:04

Fuck em, your not planning on falling off are you? My wife rode on the back of my bike until she was ready to drop.

**slofox** · 24th August 2012, 12:04

My late wife rode pillion with me up until about 8 months as I recall. And I think we went out a couple of times when she was overdue - trying to get things moving if you know what I mean...no problems were encountered.

**Subike** · 24th August 2012, 12:08

Doing what make you happy and relaxed is as good for the baby as it is for you.
The little tike will want to ride with mum as soon as it can walk,
with the memeorys of the enjoyment had when inside mum.
Go for it girl, enjoy being happy with your baby.

Better than being stressed wanting to ride,

**oneofsix** · 24th August 2012, 12:14

Most people don't understand those of us that ride anyhow, your being preggas just gives them another excuse to bitch and moan. Truth being the baby is safer than you and probably safer than a Wellington pedestrian

, it is not like you are thumbing yourself in the belly, shit you are more likely to suffer that from the steering wheel in a car accident. When the belly gets in the way of the gear or getting close enough to the tank to reach the bars or ride properly then address those issues.
Stay active, best thing for the baby is a happy ~~incubator~~ mother.

**munster** · 24th August 2012, 12:24

My wife pillioned quite a few times with no issues, midwife only said to knock it off near the end in case in induced an early labour. It didn't, but 'something' else did

If it makes you happy, keep doing it & stay shiney side up.