We just did ours and paid $50 to a guy at Taipa. He was great and was telling us about one he did at the cape where the couple were on horseback and he got horse sneeze all over his suit!
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We just did ours and paid $50 to a guy at Taipa. He was great and was telling us about one he did at the cape where the couple were on horseback and he got horse sneeze all over his suit!
Only a Rat can win a Rat Race!
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With four children living at home, and two who have moved out, I often tend to think of it in dollars per week. And funny enough, everyone says it's just another "$x" extra a week. Well the thing is, you just can't spending an extra $x/week.Originally Posted by Mom
At the moment I'm thinking of the two birthdays before March, 4 sets of school fees and related stationery due in Frbruary, a 21st for the eldest before June, and there there is a pile of medical bills we have to deal with - and then there is bound to be an unexpected expense like a broken down car. And then there are going to be the children's clubs and activities, often offering to allowing weekly or monthly payments.
Doesn't really leave a lot to spend on us. Its more of a fight to stop it flowing out the door, and the more I think about it, a celebrant is a luxury we can live without. Silly me for getting my hopes up.
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How about getting hitched by a druid on One Tree Hill?
I know you said dosh is an issue, and if things are that tight then you'll just have to suck it up and head to the reg office. Given that you seem to have shopped around and not found anyone prepared to do it heaps cheaper you appear to have few options.
Like others have said, as long as the both of you are happy with what is arranged (or at least accepting of the way things have to be) that's all that really counts. Hopefully you will have enough years ahead together to celebrate in a more elaborate style later (to renew your vows etc.???)
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Can't say I agree with this. I have been married 16 years now. Marriage is important to me. I love my wife, and I like that we have made a commitment, privately and publicly to be together.
Others can cheapen it if they like but it is precious to me.
"channellling the Pleideans"
It works for you, and thats great. My partner and I have (as I said) been together for nearly 30 years. I would get married if she wanted to (and I didnt have to organise it, happy to pay for it though) but her parents had an extremely ugly messy divorce when she was 12, and as she says it "put her off for life".
We're very happy though, and (as I am sure you'll acknowledge) it takes more than a bit of paper to make any long term relationship work.
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Oh absolutely. Don't get me wrong, I didn't mean to demean people in relationships like yours, I just don't like it when people say marriage means nothing or is not important. Plenty of couples choose not to get married and are totally committed to each other also! Just for me - that little piece of paper does make a difference.
Aio ki te Aorangi
I gotta say that's what happened in our case. I'm not belittling marriage, but honeslty I see it as nothing more than a piece of paper and a ring. My wife, of nearly 10 years, believes in the institute of marriage, so I gave her "the experience", why wouldn't I... the Maldives was stunningand I spent a fuckload of cash that we coulda used elsewhere, but hey, I used to think she was worth it
Good luck p.d...
I didn't think!!! I experimented!!!
They call me Mr Fahrenheit
Find yourself a JP that does stuff like CWI or something, and does not much else. We had a nice lady who was a JP and I think she was happy to do it, to keep her JPing hours up or something (OK I made up the bit about the hours)
We had it at a beach front restaurant, it was a small affair, and Me & the Moll, along with the besty and bridesmaid went down to the beach for a few mugshots in our outfits and rocked back for a big lunch, set menu.
The JP lady stayed and had lunch with us, and didn't want paying, just the $63 or whatever it was to lodge the licence.
The Moll and I had been together for a few years before the day, but I still nearly fell down when she walked in on the day in her dress, she looked gorgeous. Hard to believe she had turned up to marry me.
Keep on chooglin'
could catch a monkey
We paid $100. Last December.
Plus it was a celebrant who used to work with my father in the ambulance service a million years ago.
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Too late. Looks like window shopping only from now on.
Whip it, whip it good!
I apologise for the "miserable" comment, though I do think that making a formal commitment should be celebrated...
I know the kids and the endless drain on already streched finances, the stuff of nightmares really. The start of the year was always very tough, specially if a new uniform had to be purchased, buying school books gave me many sleepless nights, and was the source of many gripes when they never got used! I borrowed money to keep up with things, In the past, I have been reduced to using a credit card to maintain some sort of "lifestyle". I am talking electricity bills/tyres for cars etc. It will take a few years of graft to clear the debt, but I dont regret it for a moment.
I also dont regret for one second spending the money we did for our wedding, it really was the most magic day, and I guess what I was trying to say in my obnoxious way is dont scrimp on something so important. I know you are both saying now you dont care, it is just a legal statement, you just need to say a few words and sign a bit of paper. In time to come you may well regret making that choice. Your kids will probably love to be part of it too.
What ever your decision I wish you all the best. If I could, I would come and do it for nothing for you, sadly I am not qualified. What goes around, comes around.
could catch a monkey
We scrimped on EVERYTHING except the photographer.
Shopping around, Trademe, making stuff.
They call me Mr Fahrenheit
Did what with your father in the back of an ambulance?
Keep on chooglin'
could catch a monkey
Shitballs.
Fixed the first post.
They call me Mr Fahrenheit
Agree here. We got a person from the local photographic shop to do the pics. They were pimping themselves out as wedding photogs, but I'm not sure the chick that turned up had ever done one before. The photos were good.
For bizzare reasons known only to ourselves we had a second ceremony a year later (ok it's because the Moll is from overseas and the money we saved on the 1st meant we could have a trip back, and go thru the whole thing again for her family - except everything is bigger there (except on the 'wedding night' - perverts). The FIL sprung for a photog and the difference between the snaps is like night and day.
The kiwi snaps were ok, but the second lot where OMG FAB*!
*Yes even with my crust-infected ugly mug in em.
Keep on chooglin'
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