Dating

[Swoop]

I blame those oldies who were around in the 60's. Bloody hippies and their free-sex. NOW look where the world is!


Them and rap/hip-op muzak.
*exits muttering*

[KATWYN]

If it's going to happen, then it'll happen in its own good time, and then it'll be between two people who care about each other, possibly even love each other

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I always thought its between people who are commited to each other and love each other
not just who care about eachother.

....I think i'm getting old

[Joni]

At the risk of being flamed.... I have noticed that part of the problem is the "Kiwi bloke" syndrome... they are busy being a mans man and prooving to the world that that is what they are... that all else is lost. Its sad because kiwi guys do have alot to offer, but feel they will be "soft cocks" if they do offer it.

edit: Oh and I personally find that boring...

[Krusti]

but feel they will be "soft cocks" if they do offer it.

Stop picking on me. It's not my fault that I'm getting older.

[Albino]

If women want sensitive guys why is it the rugby players have the hot girlfriends and the computer geeks get rejections?

[Hitcher]

I don't want to go out
I won't stay in
Get things done

I catch a paper boy
But things don't really change
I'm standing in the wind
But I never wave bye-bye

But I try, I try

There's no sign of life
It's just the power to charm
I'm lying in the rain
But I never wave bye-bye

But I try, I try

Never gonna fall for
Modern love - walks beside me
Modern love - walks on by
Modern love - gets me to the church on time
Church on time - terrifies me
Church on time - makes me party
Church on time - puts my trust in god and man
God and man - no confessions
God and man - no religion
God and man - don't believe in modern love

[Chickadee]

Personally I had to go overseas to find Mr Right or Mr McJim as you know him. Didn't got to Britain trawling for a man, just met the right one during my OE. I went intially to meet up with my NZ ex - cock sucker that I now realise he was. Guess you have to meet a few duds before you meet the right one.

Got engaged in a week of meeting and married in less than 4 months - just knew we were right together (soul mates - yeah get ya buckets out)

7 years later still happily married with 2 sprogs, what more could you ask for. This was from someone that didn't think 'happy marriages' existed, and didn't think I'd be a Mum either!

Don't give up Kitty, import a sensitive bloke who cares. There may be some in NZ, but they're probably fairies.

[007XX]

Personally, I have only been on the "kiwi" dating scene ofr about a year, 6 years ago, and honnestly, it is the most confusing environment I have EVER seen...

Guys either too shy or too proud to make the first step, girls too prissy or too shy to show real interest...the rules are blurred and so bloody complicated, nothing seems to fit anymore.
There are no longer any clearly delineated man / woman roles...

If a girl has got high standards for her choice of a mate, she's high maintenance.
If a guy wears aftershave and a pink shirt, he's either gay or is a puff...

Bring back the Cowboys I say...Real men, with a strong spine and a moral attitude to boot.

*riding ot in the Sunset with hers...*

[Busy]

How come all the blame is on us males?

I was a member of NZD for a while and the lessons you learn on that place are shocking, like the average woman has 2.5 'toys', f##k buddies are the in thing for females and to dump the guy at the first sign of romance or when feelings are shown.
Sure guys are just after a bit of horizontal bungee but woman are just as bad if not worse.

I could right a book about all the failed romantic inputs that went bad in my 30 odd years. Romance is dead because no woman wants it, so now if a woman asks to open the door for her, the only response to give is "are your arms painted on!" I'm sure someone is going to say "we want it" or "i want it" but wonder if you are the same sort that say "I'm sick of the assholes and want a nice guy" but when you get a nice guy you shit all over him and go find yourself another asshole.

It's like those joke emails that go around:
If a guy buys you flowers - he wants to get laid or has been unfaithful
If a guy buys you a gift - he wants to get laid
If a guy buys you an expensive gift - he wants a three some
If a guy doesn't buy a gift - he just wants to get laid
If a guy asks you out - he just wants to get laid ...

Or that lil comic strip:
standing there naked the lil boy says "I've got one of these"
The lil girl lifts up her dress and says "well I got one of these so can get as many of those as I want!"

[Trudes]

You mean like this?

[KATWYN]

the lessons you learn on that place are shocking, like the average woman has 2.5 'toys', f##k buddies are the in thing for females and to dump the guy at the first sign of romance or when feelings are shown.

I'd love to know what research sample was used for them to arrive at those bold statistics ...A handful of giggly school girls completing a questionaire?

So their answers end up representing the rest of the population? - thats gotta be rubbish

[Chickadee]

I guess the wrong guys meet the right girls, and the right boys meet the wrong girls then in NZ! I'm sure there are some lovely fella's in NZ.

There are hopeless romantics on both sides of the sexes. You may have to sift through a few duds but they're out there.

Important to remember if you meet someone and it's kinda working but you're not completely happy - you are both probably wasting time, there is someone out there for us all. You need to be a complete person also before you get a serious relationship (comfortable in your own skin), the other person doesn't complete you - they are your companion to love and support & vice versa.

[Busy]

I'd love to know what research sample was used for them to arrive at those bold statistics ...A handful of giggly school girls completing a questionaire?

So their answers end up representing the rest of the population? - thats gotta be rubbish

giggly school girls range between 18-40+
no questionaire, just go read the threads on any dating site, 1% are after happy ever after, the rest seem to just want to get laid.

Any single ladies out there: I like walks on the beach, waterfalls, cuddles on the couch ... after I finish playing with my cars (real cars - more than 4clys) and bikes

[KATWYN]

giggly school girls range between 18-40+
no questionaire, just go read the threads on any dating site, 1% are after happy ever after, the rest seem to just want to get laid.

Any single ladies out there: I like walks on the beach, waterfalls, cuddles on the couch ... after I finish playing with my cars (real cars - more than 4clys) and bikes

about the 18-40+

Your observations are probably only seeing a particular "type" of woman (i.e., your own description of them tells all)

What about the rest of them that don't care for the dating sites? What would their values be I wonder....

(Me - well i'm happily married for 11 years to my macho man so i've been fortunate, but I had to wait what seemed like a long time for him)

[Goblin]

A sure sign that things wont work out well with a man is when you ask if he is married and he lies and says he's seperated! Should run for the hills at that point. Then he buys you the world and tells you he loves you and you're worth it and he has kicked his wife out for you....BUT....you have to stop smoking, change your views on everything and think more like him otherwise you can just fuck off and never contact him again. Oh and then he wants everything he bought for you back again.