Your IDEAL relationship model - please read first post before responding to poll

[Joni]

Depends on who's doing the speaking!

Yes Madame presidente... I agree fully!

[Str8 Jacket]

Yes Madame presidente... I agree fully!

Where's my beer at biarch!.....?!

(not that im saying you've earned that title yet!)

[007XX]

Depends on who's doing the speaking!

Yes, well...I'd love Bush to shut the f*&^ up, but it certainly don't stop him. And that's exactly where "freedom of speech" becomes an aberration

However...any couple intent on either partie wanting the "last say" in an argument, is I believe bound to end up swinging or cheating...

But eh, that's my opinion alone...

[Pwalo]

And have you considered the possibility that a lot of us actually enjoy reading his over analysis?

Freedom of speech is a beautiful thing, don't you think?

Each to their own. But don't mistake freedom of speech with beauty or intelligence (or wit for that matter).

[007XX]

Each to their own. But don't mistake freedom of speech with beauty or intelligence (or wit for that matter).

Indeed....story of my life on men until about 6 years ago!

You live and learn, eh?

[Cruisin' Craig]

What I cannot understand is couples wherein both are cheating on each other and they find out about each other and then petition for divorce on the grounds of "infidelity" - yet they were both equally guilty. Sure, the deceit side of it needs to be addressed and both need a good slap over the ears for that, but surely that would be a cue to sit down and say "OK, we both obviously have needs outside the relationship, time to reassess the relationship and see if it's worth continuing in a more "open format." If they still loved each other enough not to dump one another when they met their lovers, if the relationship was worth keeping, then surely the relationship has enough going for it to keep in modified form.

Dumping their partner/spouse when they met their new love interests would require a great deal of courage. It' not easy breaking up with someone.

My guess is that in many of these cases the relationship has deteriorated and so both partners are dissatisfied and hence cheating, but lack the strength to call the relationship off.

However once they find out their partners have been cheating on them, they can grasp onto this as an excuse to end the relationship that they already wanted out of anyway.

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Not at all.

But you might notice that no men have yet ticked the cheatin' option.

Could that be because the male psyche does not lend itself to desiring the evil rush of successful deception?

You think a male is gonna get that fn honest. Get Real

[Maha]

But you might notice that no men have yet ticked the cheatin' option.

Could that be because the male psyche does not lend itself to desiring the evil rush of successful deception?

Naaaaa they're just cunce!

[jrandom]

You think a male is gonna get that fn honest. Get Real

Not really; I just think that most men would probably, given the choice, prefer not to have to cheat. You'd have to be pretty psychopathic to actually get a buzz from it. Mostly, I think guys tend to do it out of laziness and selfishness, and then just rationalise it away.

I have known at least one woman who does get that buzz, though - there was no rationalisation, just a fairly evil delight in what she was doing.

Sad but true.

Obviously, my experience is far from all-encompassing, so I make no claim to absolute enlightenment in this regard. Just throwing my thoughts out there to see what gets made of them.

[Stickchick]

Not really; I just think that most men would probably, given the choice, prefer not to have to cheat. You'd have to be pretty psychopathic to actually get a buzz from it. Mostly, I think guys tend to do it out of laziness and selfishness, and then just rationalise it away.

Selfishness yes, Laziness??? Please explain

[SixPackBack]

Selfishness yes, Laziness??? Please explain

[jrandom]

Selfishness yes, Laziness??? Please explain

Laziness is what stops people from working through issues in a current relationship and, if necessary, terminating it, without becoming inappropriately involved with anyone else first.

I know from personal experience that the idea of walking out on a failed long-term relationship without having a new warm body to cosy up to as an immediate replacement can be a daunting prospect.

I think that's why a lot of folk (guys and girls) end up cheating - they're too lazy to put the necessary work into honourably ending what they have, and would rather just let it slide and begin something new behind their current partner's back.

I've done it myself, and I wish I hadn't.

[Stickchick]

Laziness is what stops people from working through issues in a current relationship and, if necessary, terminating it, without becoming inappropriately involved with anyone else first.

Or it could be just that the person that is cheating isn't willing to let go of the comfortable in fear of the new relationship/shag falling apart or isn't what they expected so then they will still have the old and comfortable to fall back on.

[Maha]

Laziness is what stops people from working through issues in a current relationship and, if necessary, terminating it, without becoming inappropriately involved with anyone else first.

I know from personal experience that the idea of walking out on a failed long-term relationship without having a new warm body to cosy up to as an immediate replacement can be a daunting prospect.

I think that's why a lot of folk (guys and girls) end up cheating - they're too lazy to put the necessary work into honourably ending what they have, and would rather just let it slide and begin something new behind their current partner's back.

I've done it myself, and I wish I hadn't.

That is soooooooo beautiful, wanna hug?, i havent voted yet!....

[jrandom]

That is soooooooo beautiful, wanna hug?

Fag.