My girlfriend is getting married

[Zoolander]

Ouch.... broken hearts suck and I feel for you.... but gotta be honest here, so please don't take this personally.... you need to man up! You should've told her how you felt, I bet all along you were thinking "man, anyday now shes going to tell me how much she loves me, we're going to go back to mine and fuck like rabbits, buy a house, have kids, live happily ever after, blah blah", while she was thinking "its so great to meet a nice guy who listens to me, buys me things, and most of all doesn't want to get into my pants!!" Whoops - instant BFF, no chance of a relationship.

Next time, tell the girl how you feel, yea its hard to do but she'll appreciate your honesty and bravery, hey it might not work but at least it's out in the open and if she's a worthwhile person she should still want to be mates. And you're free to move on, not drive yourself nuts wondering if it will ever happen.

Dude, its happened to me before and it bites, but shake yourself off and get back out there. Just don't start hating the other guy cause its not his fault, and it'll just make it worse for yourself.

Lots of lovely ladies out there, but you wont get to know them if you're stuck at home feeling sorry for yourself!!

Hope this helps!

[Colapop]

I implied that you are not charming.

And I implied that you are not in a position to judge.

[Maha]

I just really need to harden up.

Just one more day of work and I'm out of here.

Yip!..being soft just dont work sometimes.
Not saying you are soft, but for the love of all things 'bloke'....Recognise the fact that dream girl is now someone else's to deal with and it was never going to be anything.
Get onya bike and ride!...thats what you really love right?

[DMNTD:Me]

Yip!..being soft just dont work sometimes....

Take the little blue pill brother!

[GSVR]

yes, some yes. couple can't answer

On reflection even when a longterm relationship breaks up when you look back at it you can see the signs that you didn't pick up on. You may have been to busy with your job or whatever.

Forgot what the figure is for marraige breakups but its not good.

You can let it get you down or use it as a time to set new goals. The best friends are the ones that are around thru the bad as well as the good times. Beware of one getting into one sided relationships as they seldom last.

[Nagash]

Okay, trying not to be offensive but I swear this is an asian thing..

Have 3 other asian mates who have experianced near exactly the same thibg. One guys had it happen to him with 3 girls! (One of the girls ended up dating me! Errk)

I reckon you just let it blind side you, emphasis on 'let it'. Unfortunately I haven't seen something quite as big as the girl getting married but you appear to be unfortunate on that part. Gotta move on under the realisation.. it's just a girl and you were fooling yourself from the start.

Get angry (avoid riding) then move on.

[Maha]

Take the little blue pill brother!

Have been for a while now....read the instructions on the bottle and yes, should have had my glasses on....however, they do make good ear plugs.

[DMNTD:Me]

Have been for a while now....read the instructions on the bottle and yes, should have had my glasses on....however, they do make good ear plugs.

Didn't realise that you were hard of hearing mate!

[Coyote]

-Did she, at any point, refer to you as her boyfriend? Honeybunch, Sweetheart or another specially reserved term of endearment would do here.

-Did you have sex with her? Pretty clear, really.

-A lot of girls that play guys along tend to use such words to be cute. Doesn't make it any clearer whether she likes you in a boyfriend/girlfriend kinda way or just as a friend.

-Nor does that clarify anything. It does if it's a nicer women of course, but the playa types aren't so nice (maybe nice to look at...) and could be screwing several guys in any space of time (if ya know whaddi mean).

[Colapop]

No those particular things don't clarify anything but the gist of what I was getting is there. Actual girlfriend/boyfriend status confirmation...

[Coyote]

I just really need to harden up.

To some degree, just don't harden the fuck up

Get some polish and spend some quality time with the bike

[jonbuoy]

I just really need to harden up.

Just one more day of work and I'm out of here.

Don't beat yourself up matey be safe in the knowledge that EVERYONE has made a complete arse of themselves when it comes to this at some stage or other. Even poor old Owen Wilson. Don't get cynical and let it stop you being a decent bloke. Just remember she's not your girlfriend until she's telling you she loves you and your doing the wild thing, your just friends till then. And FFS don't tell her any of this if you haven't done so already.

[EJK]

Let me tell you guys how I feel right now.

I am so happy, almost feel like I'm flying high (no guys, no drugs were involved lol!)

After my last post, I took a ride. Just Coatesville + Riverhead road from Albany to City. Then went to the Mt Eden Summit where I like to be.

I had many thoughts. I remember some words from Imdying, saying "Running away from your problem never helps".

Yes, it does not help. But then how can I face it? Damn I was scared... How can I face it?

But then (on top of Mt Eden), I sat down on the highest place and thought "Yeah, I'm too young! At age of 18, I'm too young!"

Here is a list of my thoughts:

"I guess I'm far too young to understand things"

"MY LIFE IS GRAND! MY LIFE IS TALL!!!"

"I've already lost something (someone) valuable in my life, I'm not afriad to lose more!"

"Plenty of fish in the ocean!"

"6 billion and I'm feeling screwed by one girl in this world!" (Yes, I do watch many movies)

"Heh! I gotta buy the Triumph ST1050 before I die!! Can't die now!!" (Yes, I thought of death)



Hmmmm what am I missing now?
Oh thats right!! A big ride!!

I'm leaving to Cape Reinga on Thursday morning (prob dawn). Who wants to convoy me out of Auckland?? lol

I really want a getaway!!

P.S. This thread is feeling pathetic now lol Someone delete this thread please

[Str8 Jacket]

Good onya mate. 18 really *is* young! You have so much more life to live. Ride as much as you can now and love it!!!

[Colapop]

Rubber ball syndrome huh? First you go down and hit the bottom - hard. Then you bounce and get real high (no drugs). But there will be more times of up and down before you get the equilibrium back. Just chill man, enjoy your ride and get back to normal. You're not married, you don't have kids a mortgage or a dog. You have your health a bike and the open road.. so... go.