Unwanted attention

[007XX]

I'm mightily impressed by wet penguins.


Love the technique ,always worked on me, much better than academic word games,body language analysis, fleeting glances, innuendo and guess what I'm thinking pa-larva. I'm a bit slow on the games lovers play but even I get the message when two tongues collide.

well, that makes two of us...I've always hated the dating games. Never could figure out what the friggin' rules were. I mean sure, I can flirt (hell, it's a heck of a lot of fun), but it was more often than not a rare enjoyment for me...I find it puzzling when I was told: "Don't call him back within two days, or he'll think you're easy" or "if you don't call him, he'll think you're too prissy!" WTF??? Make up your mind people

Thankfully, my beloved and I found each other, and so I no longer need to worry about having to figure out any "signals"...we both just say what's on our minds (and yes, I jumped on him at the beginning of our courtship...)

Oooh wet penguins do it for me everytime.

The cute ones, with big eyes, and glistening wet fur?

[marty]

true story - (well it was in Matamata) - she says "if you can guess my weight you can fuck me tonight" he says "2 tonnes?" she says "close enough - let's go!"

apparantley she went off like a rocket.....

[Jorja]

"Are you here with your boyfriend?" can hardly be construed as a sleazy pick up line. The look on his face was probably saying "My God, what trash."

I would have to say that you (and your boyfriend) have shown a complete lack of class.

Firstly - as you described it - it doesnt sound like a all that creepy approach from the guy.

A guy sees you, thinks you are nice and has come over to chat - At least he asked if you had a boyfriend as opposed to hitting you with corny lines.

The classy thing to do would have been a simple - yes I am, thanks.

And as for your boyfriend - well if hes happy to talk to you like that in front of strangers - that shows a huge lack of respect for you.

Im not surprised that the 'creep' had a look of horror on his face - its not because he was shot down - he was probably mortified about you guys.

Then you come on here bragging about it - pfffft.

Actually he knew I was with Frosty cause he mentioned watching us dancing.
Ten minutes later he was with another women. Then he left her and tried it with someone else. She started talking to me and I discovered she was his DATE for the night. That is why I called him a creep.

If you go to a party with someone you don't spend the night hitting on other women!!!!!

Frosty's comment was said as a joke to get rid of him.

[007XX]

Actually he knew I was with Frosty cause he mentioned watching us dancing.
Ten minutes later he was with another women. Then he left her and tried it with someone else. She started talking to me and I discovered she was his DATE for the night. That is why I called him a creep.

If you go to a party with someone you don't spend the night hitting on other women!!!!!

Frosty's comment was said as a joke to get rid of him

Fair enough, that would definitely qualify in my books as a creep. No patience at all for that lot.

[Tank]

Actually he knew I was with Frosty cause he mentioned watching us dancing.
Ten minutes later he was with another women. Then he left her and tried it with someone else. She started talking to me and I discovered she was his DATE for the night. That is why I called him a creep.

If you go to a party with someone you don't spend the night hitting on other women!!!!!

Frosty's comment was said as a joke to get rid of him.

ahhh - context makes quite a difference.

[martybabe]

Sometimes I wonder if chix would rather we just gave up.

DB

You do wonder eh, how hard does it have to be to say hello.

well, that makes two of us...I've always hated the dating games. Never could figure out what the friggin' rules were. I mean sure, I can flirt (hell, it's a heck of a lot of fun), but it was more often than not a rare enjoyment for me...I find it puzzling when I was told: "Don't call him back within two days, or he'll think you're easy" or "if you don't call him, he'll think you're too prissy!" WTF??? Make up your mind people

Thankfully, my beloved and I found each other, and so I no longer need to worry about having to figure out any "signals"...we both just say what's on our minds (and yes, I jumped on him at the beginning of our courtship...)

It's far to complicated, who wrote all the bloody secret rules to the mating game. You see someone you like and approach them, daunting enough. Then you have to do this bloody secret ritual and be judged on it by a bunch of strangers and god help you if you deviate from the accepted path, your labeled a creep or a sleaze. It's like a bloody job interview every time you wanna say hello.

I was a shy but fortunately good looking young pup so I abandoned the stupid game all together and waited for someone like you who was honest enough to express an interest without all the bs twenty seven trials of Hercules just to be able to say I like ya without being shot up the anus.

Do you know that all made sense when it left my head, I just re-read it and even I'm not sure what my point is.

[007XX]

Do you know that all made sense when it left my head, I just re-read it and even I'm not sure what my point is.

I hear ya (and understand) Big Fella...

Funnily enough, my beloved summed it up very nicely just this weekend past(and I quote): "It's lovely to have a wife who's like a bloke with a vagina!"

What more can I say?

[Jorja]

You do wonder eh, how hard does it have to be to say hello.


It's far to complicated, who wrote all the bloody secret rules to the mating game. You see someone you like and approach them, daunting enough. Then you have to do this bloody secret ritual and be judged on it by a bunch of strangers and god help you if you deviate from the accepted path, your labeled a creep or a sleaze. It's like a bloody job interview every time you wanna say hello.

Usually I have alot of respect for guys with the courage to say hello. I was always too shy to approach anyone. But surely it is better to be upfront and say hey you look like a nice person . Would you like to dance? But as for trying to pick up someone who is very definitely there with someone else when you yourself are on a date........? I just find that amazing

[CookMySock]

But as for trying to pick up someone who is very definitely there with someone else when you yourself are on a date........? I just find that amazing

Haha, It sure is. You should try it.


DB

[martybabe]

Usually I have alot of respect for guys with the courage to say hello. I was always too shy to approach anyone. But surely it is better to be upfront and say hey you look like a nice person . Would you like to dance? But as for trying to pick up someone who is very definitely there with someone else when you yourself are on a date........? I just find that amazing

100% agree ,I have no answer to that, give the nice guys a chance girls, it's hard enough to break the ice but as for chatting someone up who's with someone else? I don't know, alcohol stupidity or deliberate antagonism ? maybe it's some kind of twisted macho challenge to your partner. Who knows.Either way it's plain wrong and a surefire way to get a free nose job on the mean streets I called home.

[Katman]

Frosty's comment was said as a joke to get rid of him.

Joke or not - my comment still stands.

[CookMySock]

[....] as for chatting someone up who's with someone else? I don't know, alcohol stupidity or deliberate antagonism ? maybe it's some kind of twisted macho challenge to your partner. Who knows.Either way it's plain wrong and a surefire way to get a free nose job on the mean streets I called home.

it can also get you into some pretty interesting situations. Sure, if some gorilla thinks you are a threat, then you better be able to duck or swing, or both. I think older folks are a little more relaxed, and less possessive caveman-ish. Perhaps they trust their partner even ? It's the young ones who get angry real quick, sensing that they might have their precious possession(?) swiped from under their nose. I've never been socked, and I cuddle everyones' mrs, but then I'm quite obviously a puppy dog. I think blokes even grin about me doing it. I never take anything that doesn't belong to me though - thats dishonest.

DB

[Tank]

it can also get you into some pretty interesting situations. Sure, if some gorilla thinks you are a threat, then you better be able to duck or swing, or both. I think older folks are a little more relaxed, and less possessive caveman-ish. Perhaps they trust their partner even ? It's the young ones who get angry real quick, sensing that they might have their precious possession(?) swiped from under their nose. I've never been socked, and I cuddle everyones' mrs, but then I'm quite obviously a puppy dog. I think blokes even grin about me doing it. I never take anything that doesn't belong to me though - thats dishonest.

DB

Surely it depends on the intent. If a puppy dog (your words so don't get stroppy) comes up and gives the missus a hug - then its all being nice and is done with good intentions.

On the other hand if some bloke (young or old) is trying to get one in regardless of the fact that there is a relationship then yep the bastard needs a good kicking. Sadly there are a lot of people out there that will always try it on just in-case the missus is in one of those 'fragile moments'.

I'm confident in my relationship (married 13 years last week) - but Ive still had 'words' with a friend of a friend who thought my wife might be up for a afternoon shag while Im at work.

[CookMySock]

Surely it depends on the intent. [....] On the other hand if some bloke (young or old) is trying to get one in regardless of the fact that there is a relationship then yep the bastard needs a good kicking.

Yes and no. If their intent is to subvert and exclude YOU, then I would agree.

Sadly there are a lot of people out there that will always try it on just in-case the missus is in one of those 'fragile moments'.

Yes, this is particularly nasty, and makes everyone wary.

I'm confident in my relationship (married 13 years last week) - but Ive still had 'words' with a friend of a friend who thought my wife might be up for a afternoon shag while Im at work.

Yep, he should not be trying to sneak something that is not his. Perhaps he would even take your expensive bike for a ride without you knowing ? What would be the difference ? Perhaps if he asked for a wee sit on it while you were there, you would not be against this ?

So there is taking, and there is asking. Sometimes, the answer to "asking" is "no", but at least they asked and then accepted your answer.

DB

[Tank]

(again - talking generally) As far as I'm concerned even asking someone when you know they are in a relationship is a cunt of a thing to do.

Maybe I'm just a short tempered, intolerant, and over protective prick. But that's something I don't put up with.

Funny - I have morals about that - but not about breaking the guys jaw .