Current opinion:
"Adulterers are neither kind nor good people, so what sort of sympathy are we supposed to give them?" asks Leila Collins, a psychologist who has been giving relationship counselling for 15 years.
"A good person doesn't betray their loved ones. A good person who is unsatisfied in their relationship ends it before starting a new one."
Generally accepted now as 'correct and normal' yes.
Now, take this man: Sigmund Freud
"Freud also believed that the libido developed in individuals by changing its object, a process codified by the concept of sublimation. He argued that humans are born "polymorphously perverse", meaning that any number of objects could be a source of pleasure. He further argued that, as humans develop, they become fixated on different and specific objects through their stages of development—first in the oral stage (exemplified by an infant's pleasure in nursing), then in the anal stage (exemplified by a toddler's pleasure in evacuating his or her bowels), then in the phallic stage. Freud argued that children then passed through a stage in which they fixated on the mother as a sexual object (known as the Oedipus Complex) but that the child eventually overcame and repressed this desire because of its taboo nature. (The lesser known Electra complex refers to such a fixation on the father.) The repressive or dormant latency stage of psychosexual development preceded the sexually mature genital stage of psychosexual development.
Freud's way of interpretation has been called phallocentric by many contemporary thinkers. This is because of, for Freud, the unconscious desires for the phallus (penis). Males are afraid of losing their masculinity, symbolized by the phallus, to another male. Females always desire to have a phallus - an unfulfillable desire. Thus boys resent their fathers (fear of castration) and girls desire theirs."
We now know 'better' and no longer use his work as true and correct, only as a bit of a history lesson in where we came from psychologically.
Dare I say it, but could a bit of perspective be needed?
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