
Originally Posted by
James Deuce
- Please don't take the following rant as directed at you mate. It's just "my way" OK?
We're talking about the DPB. You know, parents who suddenly find themselves in sole charge and needing time to get some sort of life in order. Divorce, death, vegetative state, sudden disappearance, prison terms, stuff that one half of the parenting equation has no control over when it happens to the other half.
You can plan all you want. Things turn to shit, but you lot would rather chuck good people into the gutter to let "Darwin" sort it out.
That is an unspeakably horrible attitude. Anyone sitting here reading this and having their indignant ire raised by what I've just said should reflect on the fact that I wouldn't wish the last 14 years of my life on even you. Ever held a twitching dying 3 month old foetus and wondered what could have been? Ever held an 8 month old baby struggling to breathe and had him stop? Ever wondered why the Geneticist was laughing at you as she delivered the news about Trisomy 21? Ever watched 75% of the coffee group you find yourself going to to share some of the shit around lose their partners (invariably pathetic men) because they can't "cope"? Ever seen the bashing society gives those people (invariably women) left holding the can because they have a kid who will be a "drain" on society their whole life and they're on the DPB too? Ever watched those people who have the capacity to do so go back to their job as a CEO, hire a live in nanny and never even spend any time whatsoever with their broken kid?
I'd guess not. Life has been really, really good to most of you, and just like Marie Antoinette, it is beyond your comprehension when "they" don't cope. There's more of them, of us, out there than you think. Your scorn and derision, and righteous indignation at them being such abject visible failures is not only damaging it speaks volumes about your lack of compassion, of empathy, of understanding, and explains why we still struggle so much with the negative aspects of our society. You all talk about helping people out, but when it's really needed you just melt away because it doesn't suit the self-picture of the heroic effort you think you are meant to give. "They used to have a good job and live well, what's wrong with them? They should get their shit together!"
I have about the right number of fingers to add up the number of people who've helped me keep the tattered remains of my personality together. A couple of them reside here. A couple of them were a complete surprise. I can't describe what some of these people have done for me. Suffice to say none of them were from the Government, none of them were the people you would think felt they needed to step up. But I'm still married, still enjoying my kids, still riding my bike to and from work and I've not strangled a single short-sighted, small-minded, arse-brained Government flunky yet.
I'm doing the best I can. If that doesn't meet your expectations, well, in all seriousness, it doesn't matter, does it?. If I suck a kumara on the way home in that really heavy rain/hail out there, I'll just be another annoying Internet denizen with high expectations of his fellow humans NOT wasting characters on a computer screen anymore.
I don't expect anything from you, but how many cries for help have you missed? How many times have you let your personal "life's good, don't waste it" filter interpret a vision of someone's life as pathetic and useless and below your help (including tax) because it's a waste of time helping out those darkies/beneficiaries/DPB bludgers/mental patients?
We're supposed to be "evolving", developing a society with room for different expressions of a meaningful life and supporting people to do that. For 99% of people, "Good one mate" is good enough. Some people need a LOT more.
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