To be a man?

**piston broke** · 28th February 2009, 19:19

Originally Posted by MyGSXF

Oh hun.. thankyou thankyou thankyou for your offer.. I'd have him there in a flash if you were closer.. you could always shift to

Nelson & marry me...

if he's keen,
send him up for the next hol's.
or shift here and marry me

**Maha** · 28th February 2009, 19:36

Decisions.

It all comes down to decisions Jen.
Making the right one everytime is not possible.
But making that decision in the first place will effect your future in some way.
I am not talking about deciding over a Paradiso or Jelly Tip, more along the lines of school subjects etc. Deciding who your real friends are at an early age will impact on decision making, peer pressure is a joke. The making of a man is made from mistakes, the mark of a man is knowing how correct those mistakes.

**EatOrBeEaten** · 28th February 2009, 19:44

Awesome thread, I think this is one of theose times when KB is at its best.

**piston broke** · 28th February 2009, 20:08

Originally Posted by MyGSXF

Thanks Anne

Jess has had a 'mentor' for the past 3 years.. however his mentor was a female also.. they were seriously lacking male mentors when I signed him up.. such is the demand!!

however, they have had a wonderful time together, kayaking, rock climbing, swimming etc. He's been on the waiting list for a male mentor through a different programme in Nelson, for nearly a year & a half now.. & still waiting..

with the way our society is running at the mo,
it's hard for a bloke to be close to any youngster,sadly.
i find myself, that i want my bro or sis'in'law to be nearby when i take their kids out..
no wonder the young fella is still waiting for a male mentor.
i'd love to be a big brother but there is too much shite goes down....;..
it's fucked,men near children seem to be treated as 'peado's.
and then peep's wonder why men take a back step from kids.

**Big Dave** · 28th February 2009, 20:12

Originally Posted by FROSTY

To be a father or to be a dad. The two things aren't of course mutually exclusive. With my brady bunch Im being either dad or both depending on the boy.

Frosty is actually Alice. :-P

**piston broke** · 28th February 2009, 20:14

Originally Posted by Big Dave

Frosty is actually Alice. :-P

alice was onto it tho

**reofix** · 28th February 2009, 20:19

i spend a lot of time with kids... neices ,nephews, grandchildren and friends kids ... boys and girls and I have never had anyone even start down that road ... when we give in to fear we lose our freedom!!

**Mikkel** · 28th February 2009, 20:19

Jen, I doubt a letter will do much at the age of 13 - he'd be better off with a role model who's actually physically present. When I was 13 my biggest rolemodel was my uncle who is an ex-UN soldier ex-farmer who works as a rescue worker. I doubt any letter from him would have meant anything without him actually having a physical presence in my everyday life...

Your boy does sound a bit like me at that age - if you hurry he may still be saved

(In all seriousness, just make sure that he doesn't spend too much of his time in the virtual reality...)

**Dragon** · 28th February 2009, 20:44

I know i'm not much older then your son but I'm sure I've made alot of mistakes in my short life and may be able to help if you want.

**Slyer** · 28th February 2009, 20:48

Originally Posted by Mikkel

(In all seriousness, just make sure that he doesn't spend too much of his time in the virtual reality...)

But virtual reality is the best one!

You sound like you're already doing a great job, sadly the boys whose mothers don't think of this sort of thing need a buddy the most.

**Dean** · 28th February 2009, 21:34

So hes 13, im 4 years older,hes roughly around my age so i can have a chat with him if he wants to hang out for an hour.I know the kind of stuff teenagers get into so i can casually help him in the right path. Hes a cool dude, and he is being taken care of by a very good caregiver he is very lucky, all the best.

**MyGSXF:Me** · 28th February 2009, 21:39

Originally Posted by Maha

The making of a man is made from mistakes, the mark of a man is knowing how correct those mistakes.

That's magic Mark!! Put that in writing for me pleeease!!

Originally Posted by piston broke

i'd love to be a big brother

DO IT!!!!!!! you may be the difference that save's a young mans life

Originally Posted by Mikkel

Jen, I doubt a letter will do much at the age of 13
if you hurry he may still be saved

That's why I want to make a book.. it will be something he can keep & look back through over the years & can be added to as he grows. Jess is a sentimental kid, he 'feels' very deeply. I've given him some soppy cards over the years & he keeps them in his drawer beside his bed! I could pretty much guarantee the chances of him going "off the rails" would be about as likely as me getting to own a Britten..

Originally Posted by Dragon

I know i'm not much older then your son but I'm sure I've made alot of mistakes in my short life and may be able to help if you want.

Thanks hun!! Would be awesome to have something in writing from another young perspective!!

Originally Posted by Slyer

But virtual reality is the best one!

Maybe you could write something, linking the two world together.

He loves PC games like Sim City type of thing, where he builds & creates!