Kids and porn on internet...

[cowboyz]

I was late back from work this afternoon and my 12 year old was home alone for about half an hour. He was playing round on the PC when I got in. he looked kinda guilty about something when I walked in so I asked him what he was doing. he said watching music videos online.

I had a quick look through the history and it shows that he typed "free porn" into google and then surfed quite a few porn websites.

How would you approach this?

I am waiting for his mother to get home.

[merv]

I suspect in this day and age you aint going to stop it, but somehow just try and make sure he also learns respect for others.

[Lissa]

Hmm luckly my eight year old doesnt even know what porn is.

I wouldnt directly tell him that you found out that he was looking at porn, so you dont embarrass him. I would just bring the subject up casually telling him your thoughts on the matter.... well I think thats what I would do anyway.

[doc]

Hmm luckly my eight year old doesnt even know what porn is.

You sure about that ?

[Coyote]

As that ad for that merkican sitcom said: "Gimme 5 lil' pimp"

Bring up in a conversation with your wife saying you should regulary check the internet history, making sure he overhears. It might scare him off, or get him to learn to cover his tracks

[Mom]

Approach low and slow..........he? is obviously curious, the media and by virtue of them, his peers make it almost impossible to not have a peek to find out what it is all about. IMHO 12 y/o's are more curious than anything else. A quiet word about what you dont want to find on your computer may hopefully lead to some healthy discussion between you about what is ok and what is not, the good and the bad............just dont over react is my advice.......good luck!

[Nasty]

Net nanny and other systems are available to help/assist with the issue of what kids go into on the net ... check out those things.

[Coyote]

Hmm luckly my eight year old doesnt even know what porn is.

Highhhly unlikely in this damn age

Unless you're raising your kid like my parents raised me. Didn't have a clue what the kids at school were talking about as I had never seen the American Pie movies and shit, and I got teased for it. I still get told I'm too young to hear what people are talking about despite them being virgins and I'm not

[NighthawkNZ:Me]

I am waiting for his mother to get home.

Thats a good start let her deal with... oh and at least it was free porn and no credit card involved...

Seriously hes getting to that age where he is starting to get interested and or wanting to know about that stuff... So you need to have to talk to him about it, be open, and answer his questions, and explain the dangers.

Software wise you can look at Net nanny or something similar.

I assume the puter is in the lounge where every one can see, (I don't recommend letting kids have computers in there room especially with internet access)

[Mom]

Hmm luckly my eight year old doesnt even know what porn is.

I have had the experience of my little kids googling? (sp) "sticky tv" and bringing up some amazing shit online.....you can not be too careful....as kids get older they will go looking, shit we make a big enough fuss about it, they cant help looking, it is all about talking to them really......good luck for the people with younger than mine kids........

[Clivoris]

Oooh. That's a dilemna alright mate. I'd be talking with him in a fairly straight-up, non-punitive way. It's probably worth acknowledging his natural curiosity but letting him know what your family boundaries, and expectation are around porn. Think about what you want. If you have any ideas about what age he can start making his own decisions about this, let him know. If he has questions, let him know that you are willing to answer them for him (if you are). If you have reasons why you don't like him looking at porn, let him know. Chances are though that he will access porn somehow, but the least he can do is smarten up and not get caught.
Good luck.

[cowboyz]

Yes the computer is in the lounge room and it is MY computer. The kids rarely use it especially when I am home.

Explain the dangers? Like read the fine print. A movie and coffee down and the rest of your paychecks for life?

[Ixion]

You sure about that ?

Slow developer.

[doc]

I was late back from work this afternoon and my 12 year old was home alone for about half an hour. He was playing round on the PC when I got in. he looked kinda guilty about something when I walked in so I asked him what he was doing. he said watching music videos online.

I had a quick look through the history and it shows that he typed "free porn" into google and then surfed quite a few porn websites.

How would you approach this?

I am waiting for his mother to get home.

Here is Professional opinion from someone who knows. Maybe what you should do is manage this situation, this is normal behaviour, the kid has to negotiate his way around what is acceptable and what is not, 12 year old boy's have always looked at Playboy's, today there is far more available. If you as a man have managed your kids effectively he will know what is right or wrong himself, find a way to guide him you have to find the middle ground and learn to talk to him. "If all else fails let his mother deal with it." (That her just being her usual bitch). Right thats the wife"s opinion and take it from me she is the one to listen to . I however would like to know were these sites any good and do they cost much

[cowboyz]

Oooh. That's a dilemna alright mate. I'd be talking with him in a fairly straight-up, non-punitive way. It's probably worth acknowledging his natural curiosity but letting him know what your family boundaries, and expectation are around porn. Think about what you want. If you have any ideas about what age he can start making his own decisions about this, let him know. If he has questions, let him know that you are willing to answer them for him (if you are). If you have reasons why you don't like him looking at porn, let him know. Chances are though that he will access porn somehow, but the least he can do is smarten up and not get caught.
Good luck.

yeah. I think we will be chatting if his mother ever makes an apperance.

I have never been interested in porn to be honest. I haven't ever seen a porn movie but just kinda think it would be frustrating. A little liken to sitting on your bike with the keys in the igintion watching other people ride. That just me though.