When do you prefer to do it?

[LilSel]

Oh my, I thought it was just me who initiated those sorts of discussions!!! Thank god other people have similar issues! (not that it's a good thing, but....aw heck, you know what I mean!).

PM on its way.......

No no... not just you lol... Its rather frustrating... (go the pun!!)

[Lissa]

When I am in the mood, I am in the mood. Although to me sex is emotional as well as physical. Has to be foreplay involved!!! No quickies!!! Thats all I have to say on the subject.

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

What's this I hear women asking their husbands for action and being denied WTF???? These jokers obviously need reprogramming or they are faulty!!
Check their warranties if they're still valid ask for a replacement!!!!

Oh Please don't get me started on this subject!! Happens more than you think. Would be nice to find a man who could keep up and knows how to pleasure a woman. I know how to pleasure a man and it's not all thru hands on direct experience (lol) I read alot about it. I accept there are people out there that are not so interested in the physical side of a relationship (can't understand it myself lol).

Mind you I know of 4 male friends that are married and they might be lucky to get it 3 times a year! 3 of them have strayed and while I don't condone that - I sure as hell don't blame them - Fark that. Thank God I'm single!!

No doubt too much information - but tell someone who cares - I don't lol.

[doc]

When I am in the mood, I am in the mood. Although to me sex is emotional as well as physical. Has to be foreplay involved!!! No quickies!!! Thats all I have to say on the subject.

F..k me I saw this post and was goin to be the first to reply. Im on day's off it's raining I'm Bored OK! . I thought I was being checky and answer a thread about when you got around to doin maint on yer bike. But that's not all, by the time I had draughted a reply I was almost on the 2nd page, some of those others seemed to be a bit premature if you know what I mean. I'm ready now to answer and you don't want to discuss it anymore. NO WONDER WE HAVE TROUBLE UNDERSTANDING WOMEN.and I thought the crickets had stopped.... the noise is back

[ManDownUnder]

Here's a different way of looking at it. What happens between the sheets is an indicator of the relationship's health as a whole. It's not the only indicator, but it's a good one, giving a pretty clear insight into the state of the intimate aspects of the thing.

As a consequence it's one of the most commonly complained about topics... because it comes up as a result of so many other things that can go wrong. The first thing many people notice is a lack of sex (or often, it's actually a lack of intimacy - related, but very different).

That's the sign that trouble's brewing. Find the trouble and the sex fixes itself.

Fix the sex and the trouble comes back again and again...

[terbang]

Whenever the opportunity arises. Quickies, longies, whatever where ever. However we do live with two 'Sex Police' (Teenage kids) that kick up such a fuss, choking and gagging, at the first or even slight hint of it possibly happening.. Funny thing that, when I was young I spent half my time keeping it out of the olds attention and now its the opposite..

[The Stranger:Me]

Hubby's away a lot so *sigh* not much action going on there! And I prefer nighttime, he prefers daytime.....so *sigh* not much action going on there.....

So the 4th option then?

[Lissa]

F..k me I saw this post and was goin to be the first to reply. Im on day's off it's raining I'm Bored OK! . I thought I was being checky and answer a thread about when you got around to doin maint on yer bike. But that's not all, by the time I had draughted a reply I was almost on the 2nd page, some of those others seemed to be a bit premature if you know what I mean. I'm ready now to answer and you don't want to discuss it anymore. NO WONDER WE HAVE TROUBLE UNDERSTANDING WOMEN.and I thought the crickets had stopped.... the noise is back

Ok fine I will discuss it then!! What do you want know??

[Squeak the Rat]

Forget the hand, wake him/her up with a BJ tomorrow morning

[Colapop]

i DON'T DO IT AT ALL...

[avgas]

I usually wake up with a boner - so there is half the work done for me

[Squeak the Rat]

I usually wake up with a boner - so there is half the work done for me

Heh, heh, morning wood, heh heh, he said boner, heh heh heh.

[Lissa]

Here's a different way of looking at it. What happens between the sheets is an indicator of the relationship's health as a whole. It's not the only indicator, but it's a good one, giving a pretty clear insight into the state of the intimate aspects of the thing.

As a consequence it's one of the most commonly complained about topics... because it comes up as a result of so many other things that can go wrong. The first thing many people notice is a lack of sex (or often, it's actually a lack of intimacy - related, but very different).

That's the sign that trouble's brewing. Find the trouble and the sex fixes itself.

Fix the sex and the trouble comes back again and again...

So true. Lack of intimacy or intimate converstation with your partner... does have an effect on Sex. Esp from a womens perspective when sex is emotional as well as physical. A way of expressing love and being open. (foreplay... important!). If you dont feel a connection to your partner, you arent going to be comfortable being intimate (sex) with them.

[terbang]

I usually wake up with a boner - so there is half the work done for me

I thought they just called that one a Piss Hard. In other words you just need a morning pee.

[ManDownUnder]

And here's a gotcha.

Man woman... with grumbles... and the dishes need doing (humour me here). They don't feel close for whatever reason...

For the man - sex makes him feel close and will resolve the immediate issue of not feeling close. What would happen is this... have sex, feel close, the dish3es get done and there's a positively reinforcing cycle put into play

For the woman - closeness makes her feel like sex. If only he would get off his lazy arse and do the dishes... coz if he did, she'd be grateful and while she may still have some reservations, sex is more likely to be on the cards, whereupon... refer section "For the man" above.

Now that's a wonderful generalisation, and very simple, but it shows there are two solutions to this problem. And (let me say this loud and clear). THEY ARE BOTH RIGHT. They both work. "I did this last time, so you do that next time" isn't going to help. The time to talk is AFTER sex. When you ARE feeling good, and close and intimate. You're more likely to actually listen and learn.

Now - instead of assuming "the dishes" is the issue... it might be putting out the rubbish, picking your nose, farting, mowing the lawns, making the kids lunches etc etc etc. There's a really easy way to find out too...


... ask...