When do you prefer to do it?

**Mrs Busa Pete** · 15th March 2007, 15:48

Originally Posted by Colapop

i DON'T DO IT AT ALL...

Now that answer a lot of question. We now know where all that pent up energy come from.

**judecatmad** · 15th March 2007, 15:55

There's always the issue of one half of the relationship being a nymphomaniac (or the male equivalent, whatever that may be...) and the other being totally satisfied with 3 times a year....LOL

It's not always that there's anything wrong with the relationship per se, it could just be a completely different level of expectation/need.

**Squeak the Rat** · 15th March 2007, 15:57

Or you have kinky coupled with a starfish.......

**judecatmad** · 15th March 2007, 16:00

Originally Posted by Squeak the Rat

Or you have kinky coupled with a starfish.......

Shouldn't that be a chicken, STR???

**ManDownUnder** · 15th March 2007, 16:10

Originally Posted by judecatmad

It's not always that there's anything wrong with the relationship per se, it could just be a completely different level of expectation/need.

True - and if that's a manageable situation then cool. Often it's not though, and will influence other aspects of the relationship to sour... on occasion.

Communication helps, but it can be hard when you're well and truly pissed off at someone.

**ManDownUnder** · 15th March 2007, 16:11

Originally Posted by busa pete

Now that answer a lot of question. We now know where all that pent up energy come from.

I'd be more concerned about the release he gets from giving hugs...

**Macktheknife** · 15th March 2007, 16:11

God, who has sex anymore? That is so last century!
Isn't there a pill or something you can take instead?

P/T

Time is not the important factor,
'timing' however is far more important.
Most of us can be 'encouraged' when tired or stressed or 'not in the mood' but it takes patience, understanding and a lack of judging.

How do you think you would feel being told 'you are not meeting my sexual needs', or worse.
It is the kind of statement that is almost guaranteed to get someone in a defensive mindset, which is not conducive to resolving whatever is preventing intimate things in the relationship.

A much better approach is to start asking why your inputs to the relationship not generating the results you desire, make sure that the inputs are what you intended in the first place. Then make sure that the inputs are what your partner needs to feel secure and loved, and free to give the things that make you feel secure and loved too.

When and where are the kind of things people argue about, usually because they are easier than the real issues.

**Mumbles** · 15th March 2007, 16:15

What about another option in the poll like...
Whenever SHE (or if your one of them) HE lets me?

Begging just never seems to do it for her in doors

The only time when being

seems to be better than 1st...

**judecatmad** · 15th March 2007, 16:19

Originally Posted by ManDownUnder

True - and if that's a manageable situation then cool. Often it's not though, and will influence other aspects of the relationship to sour... on occasion.

Communication helps, but it can be hard when you're well and truly pissed off at someone.

I agree 100% with that, and communication is definitely the key. And it's not always about communicating that you need more action...LOL.

If you can get to a point in your relationship where there's intimacy even in the absence of sex, it makes it easier to be less pissed off and gives you more ability to work through issues your relationship may have other than the lack of said action....

It all depends on how long you've been together too. I mean, if you are having these issues 5 minutes into your relationship then I do probably think you're not well suited and should start looking at moving on. If, however, you're 5, 10, 15 years into the whole thing then it's probably a bit different.

At the end of the day, everybody's different and nobody's situations are going to be exactly the same. I, for one, tho have found this thread informative and very reassuring - a brave lady is LilSel to start a discussion like this!

**YLWDUC** · 15th March 2007, 16:19

The survey should have read "Anytime I can get it"
But in reality morning time is always much nicer

, because you get to have breakfast afterwards, ignore her for the day (cause you're at work) then try it on again in the evening.....

(I'm all charm)

**Switch** · 15th March 2007, 16:42

Whenever she lets me

**Colapop** · 15th March 2007, 16:46

Originally Posted by busa pete

Now that answer a lot of question. We now know where all that pent up energy come from.

You got no idea... Life doesn't suck, lick, touch, fondle... or anything really... Not how I imagined life to be.

Of course all my comments on this subject are a p/t coz I'm REALLY gonna tell you lot about what happens in my love life