Would you be pissed off?

[Mental Trousers]

Have a talk to him and find out why he didn't invite you. You really need to see both sides before deciding if you should be pissed off or not. He's probably got a very good (if somewhat twisted) reason. Possibly something like how many people should he piss off, 1 or many.

[MadDuck]

Put a positive on it. You saved on putting out for a present.

Oh and you saved having to kiss all those bad smelling Aunties you only ever see at funerals all calling you "dear" and "sweetie". Didnt they ever hear of Veet dammit !

[Str8 Jacket]

hmm that is bad, I think you are not telling us the full full story as far as your history with your brother..

I think you should call him and ask, so hows things bro? been married lately?

smooth huh?

Seriously thou, talk to him, communication is the key, i know it is hard to open up in this situation especially if you are feeling hurt, which you obviously are, but there could be a good reason for it in which case you can congratulate him adn get on with it, or there could also be a bad reason in which case, atleast you will know and can get on with it, either way.. good luck

Thanks for your response chick! I was removed form my parents at a young age but my lil bro wasnt and he was treated well. Because of this he has always struggled with his relationship with me.

[Str8 Jacket]

Just so ya'll know, I rang him just now. Spoke with him for a few minutes. I congratulated him and stuff but I couldnt do much more than that before I felt like I needed to cry. I had a good conversation with him but he couldnt tell me why he didnt invite me. Cause I was just enjoying speaking with him after so many years I didnt ask. I still really want to know though. It kinda hurts that he didnt even tell me he had married.

[Str8 Jacket]

This was the first time I have talked to him in almost 3 years

[Mental Trousers]

Scared he'd hurt you if you knew but weren't invited. People usually take the easy option, which is don't do anything and hope the problem quietly goes away.
Sounds like you being there would have made for an uncomfortable situation with the rest of the family. Not your fault.

[Colapop]

If found out through the oldfriends website that your lil brother had gotten married a coupleof months ago and hadnt told or invited you, would YOU be a bit miffed?

I told you already!!

[kerfufflez]

Don't know you from a bar of soap, but...
you weren't on speaking terms with someone for almost three years, and you still expected to be invited to their wedding? Why?
What would your response have been if you had got an invitation, seemingly out of the blue? Maybe he thought you'd tell him exactly where to stick his invite...

[Kickaha]

If found out through the oldfriends website that your lil brother had gotten married a coupleof months ago and hadnt told or invited you, would YOU be a bit miffed?

Mine did exactly that, although to be fair he didn't really invite or tell anyone it certainly didn't cause me to loose any sleep over it

[imdying]

This was the first time I have talked to him in almost 3 years

There's your answer right there... generally a wedding is a time with people who are close to you, and from your comments, you're not one of them.

[SARGE]

If found out through the oldfriends website that your lil brother had gotten married a coupleof months ago and hadnt told or invited you, would YOU be a bit miffed?

i cant honestly say i would Str8..


the most important word in the English Language is ...


NEXT!!

maybe thats just me though..i have been accused of being a bit cold and detached a few times in the last 40-odd years..

i'd say just bust out your feelings to him.. lay it out and let the chips fall

[Macktheknife]

This was the first time I have talked to him in almost 3 years

There is your answer right there, from his point of view, you have not kept in touch and don't even know the wife-to-be, weddings are expensive so no invite for str8.
As for others not telling you, don't fall into the trap of thinking this is a conspiracy against you, it may be they didn't know you knew him, cared about it, hadn't been told, whatever.
Seriously, don't get bent about it, just realise that if this is a relationship you value, then maybe you need to work on it some more, stay in regular contact and keep the door open. You never know who else in the family might become closer/friendlier too if they see you are willing to do this.
Best of luck
Mack

[Sniper]

Nope, turn around, walk away and always think of them as family. Shit happens, no point getting angry over it.

[Lissa]

Just so ya'll know, I rang him just now. Spoke with him for a few minutes. I congratulated him and stuff but I couldnt do much more than that before I felt like I needed to cry. I had a good conversation with him but he couldnt tell me why he didnt invite me. Cause I was just enjoying speaking with him after so many years I didnt ask. I still really want to know though. It kinda hurts that he didnt even tell me he had married.

Yes I would be miffed Hels.

But bloody good on ya for calling him. I know that would have needed to talk to him, to let him know that you know he got married. Keep in contact with him.... and I hope your relationship only gets stronger from it. Oneday he will tell you why you werent invited, or on another occasion when you feel strong ring and ask... he is YOUR brother afterall. Ive got three of them, I'll trade you one if you like

[Oakie]

When we got married I didn't invite a favourite uncle of mine because he lived in Australia and had no money (struggling author). I didn't invite him because I didn't want him to feel obliged to send a present (I knew damned well that he couldn't afford the trip.)

The reason you weren't invited or weren't even told may not be what you think so don't get too pissed off too soon.