Nigel Latta parenting show TV1 tonight.

[Headbanger]

What Nigel Latta was saying is......

Yeah, I get it, Its a simple message after all

[Usarka]

Today's most critical parenting tool.....

[Goblin]

Missed it last night but I agree with the guy...as per my sig line.

[The Stranger:Me]

Missed it last night but I agree with the guy...as per my sig line.

I believe you already have a pretty good handle on this stuff Goblin.

[MIXONE]

I love it and watch every week.It reinforces that my wife and I are doing the right thing by our kids.Yes they have had broken bones and stitches but they also know that sometimes life will bite you on the bum!
I'm probably also the most un pc kids sports coach because I teach the kids that sport is fun and the most fun of all is winning!It seems to work because the kids keep coming back and the parents,mostly,support this.
Mumble,mumble pc crap, mumble...

[The Stranger:Me]

God it's good stuff! Anyway he was talking about the BIG lies we tell kids.

Then they get to school and have to contend with the lies our teachers tell our kids.

• Gravity does not exist because the earth spins.
• The sun doesn't burn gas.
• There is no English treaty.

[Winston001]

But but but...doesn't this go all against the Official Social Workers Creed? Could you ever admit to admiring this and then hope to get a job with CYF?

Um...not sure where social workers come in?? They deal with the kids who have not been mollycoddled.

Anyway, the modern parenting approach (which is also followed by schools) is aimed at establishing self-esteem in a child. I don't know when this started - probably early 1990s and it's a follow-on from Dr Spock's ideas of the 60/70s.

I defy anyone to say that building a child's self-esteem is a bad thing. There are plenty of miserable bitter adults in the world who would have benefited from kindness and encouragement when young.

[Usarka]

I defy anyone to say that building a child's self-esteem is a bad thing.

Depends how high you are building it.

[tomobedlam]

. I defy anyone to say that building a child's self-esteem is a bad thing. There are plenty of miserable bitter adults in the world who would have benefited from kindness and encouragement when young.

It not about not building a child self-esteem. Disappointment, getting hurt and losing are all part of life, children need to learn to deal with that. It's about building a child's self-esteem through them actually achieving something and not just participating

[MSTRS:Me]

I defy anyone to say that building a child's self-esteem is a bad thing. There are plenty of miserable bitter adults in the world who would have benefited from kindness and encouragement when young.

Of course it's not a bad thing. But the child needs to earn that self-esteem. That means failing at stuff. As well as succeeding.
How many of today's children will end up bitter, eventually, once adult life has delivered enough knocks for them to realise that they are not special/important? Because those grown-up kids will have not have learned the skills of coping with disappointment.

[Genestho]

I defy anyone to say that building a child's self-esteem is a bad thing. There are plenty of miserable bitter adults in the world who would have benefited from kindness and encouragement when young.

No-one can say praise is a bad thing. It's a beautiful thing!

Kids are like flowers and praise is like water.

However overpraise where it's not warranted; ie lashings of "you're better than everyone at whatever you do darling" when it's just not true...or
Prizes for all, encourages kids to believe they get something for nothing.

All we achieve is to set up the child, for the big fall in "The Real World" beyond....

I advocate offering truth and acceptance when things don't go as planned.
Earning self satisfaction and self respect, rather than having it handed on a plate.

I've seen the trouble first hand, and unless you head it off at the pass, the result is being dragged down a few pegs, later rather than sooner, with the hurtling realisation of truth!

[The Pastor]

the shows pretty common sence really isnt it?

[Usarka]

I loved his line " I think you're special, but those people over there think you're loud and annoying..."

[MisterD]

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Yeah, that keeps my little 'un quiet for ages pop-pop-popping...yes, I did understand what Usarka really meant.

[MisterD]

the shows pretty common sence really isnt it?

It is, I find it interesting when he give techniques names...all this time I've been practicing the "SAS" sleep training technique and I never knew it until he told me...