How long should I wait between girlfriends?

**Genie** · 27th January 2010, 11:13

do you feel better now? Honesty sets you free.

**Gareth123** · 27th January 2010, 12:26

Originally Posted by Big Dan

Ok here is a sensible relpy and told from some experience

Firstly I'd wait a while before getting on the "horse" so to speak

If you started seeing someone new and kept it secret it will just end in disaster, you may lose them both .

I know i was dumped last yeah from my fiancee and remained friends and what i thought was us trying to work things out and maybe getting back together but in hindsight i was wrong as it turned out she had been seeing someone else for a few months and kept it from me and when i found out i was devastated bigtime.

If you do indeed care about her as you say you do you'd be honest with her and if you find someone else be honest with her cause lies always come out. Honesty is the Key

Honesty = Earns respect

I agree with what you say. Where do you stand on casual hook ups? Nothing serious just a fun shag?

**Stirts** · 27th January 2010, 13:33

Originally Posted by Gareth123

Where do you stand on casual hook ups? Nothing serious just a fun shag?

Not sure if Big Dan swings that way. But hey, you won't know unless you ask!!!

**kiwifruit** · 27th January 2010, 13:55

Originally Posted by Gareth123

just a fun shag?

is often bad for one's state of mind

**crazyhorse** · 27th January 2010, 13:58

Originally Posted by Big Dan

Ok here is a sensible relpy and told from some experience

Firstly I'd wait a while before getting on the "horse" so to speak

If you started seeing someone new and kept it secret it will just end in disaster, you may lose them both .

I know i was dumped last yeah from my fiancee and remained friends and what i thought was us trying to work things out and maybe getting back together but in hindsight i was wrong as it turned out she had been seeing someone else for a few months and kept it from me and when i found out i was devastated bigtime.

If you do indeed care about her as you say you do you'd be honest with her and if you find someone else be honest with her cause lies always come out. Honesty is the Key

Honesty = Earns respect

Honesty is always important - however, maybe she led you to believe it wasn't really completely over....... so maybe at the breakup stage, the truth should be told - its either over, or its not - so its best to find out at this point in time. If its over, then say its over and let him/her know that its time to move on.

Feelings will always be there - you both shared something in order to have had a relationship, and the last person to get over it, is generally the last one to find someone else.

Glad its worked out for you in the end Big Dan

and good luck with everyone else and relationships ...... there are no rules, just follow your heart and tell it as it is

**Gareth123** · 27th January 2010, 16:38

My ex is getting shitty because I "ignore" her when I'm down at riding.

I said hi, asked her how her day was. Asked how her horses were going.

Still get told I'm ignoring her. She was standing over to the side with a horse owner talking about the owners new horse. Apparently I was supposed to go over there, interrupt them, all because she wanted to have a talk with me. How am I supposed to know that?!? I can't win.

She wanted to remain friends, I said we could try but it would be hard to start with and a bit weird.

I seem to be the one jumping through hoops to try and keep the friendship going but I'm really close to throwing in the towel.

Should I keep trying or just call it quits. I don't want to stop riding there as I get my rides at a really good rate but I think I might have to disappear for a couple of months.

Any advice?

**Pussy** · 27th January 2010, 16:45

Originally Posted by Gareth123

Any advice?

Just be civil and friendly, without going out of your way for contact

**Gareth123** · 27th January 2010, 16:49

Originally Posted by Pussy

Just be civil and friendly, without going out of your way for contact

Thats what I am doing. I think I'll just carry on doing it and let the chips fall however.

**Genie** · 27th January 2010, 16:50

From my limited experience....remaining friends doesn't work. Time to move one and yes, be civil. It's over, move on and be happy. Make new friends. The world is full of interesting people.

**gatch** · 27th January 2010, 17:12

Originally Posted by Gareth123

Broke up with my girlfriend on Thursday. Is there a rule in regards to a stand down period? Or is it like horse riding...you fall off and get straight back on?

BTW I did the dumping, was not the dumpee.

If you find someone who you want to spend time with and are comfortable doing so, go for it, but if you are going to get a fuck friend, then for christ sakes don't base a relationship on it, it doesn't work eh. All in all you have to do what makes you happy.

Originally Posted by Gareth123

I'm ever the optimist. She's currently "sort of seeing someone at the moment."

Sorry should've added this bit in.

This sounds like shes making excuses, shes not keen lol.

Originally Posted by Gareth123

Thats what I am doing. I think I'll just carry on doing it and let the chips fall however.

Yeah man, if you go out of your way to stay friendly, you will either end up back together witout even realising it, alternatively the next girl you meet will think you still have feelings for her.

Bottom line is, woman are fucked, beat off/buy hookers and be happy. Spend the excess coin on drugs, bikes and video games.

**jellywrestler** · 27th January 2010, 17:15

when i was younger 15minutes was enough, now its around an hour, or anough time for another two jugs

**steve_t** · 27th January 2010, 17:44

Originally Posted by Gareth123

My ex is getting shitty because I "ignore" her when I'm down at riding.

I said hi, asked her how her day was. Asked how her horses were going.

Still get told I'm ignoring her. She was standing over to the side with a horse owner talking about the owners new horse. Apparently I was supposed to go over there, interrupt them, all because she wanted to have a talk with me. How am I supposed to know that?!? I can't win.

She wanted to remain friends, I said we could try but it would be hard to start with and a bit weird.

I seem to be the one jumping through hoops to try and keep the friendship going but I'm really close to throwing in the towel.

Should I keep trying or just call it quits. I don't want to stop riding there as I get my rides at a really good rate but I think I might have to disappear for a couple of months.

Any advice?

So you ignored her and she had a tanty to get your attention? Hahaha... predictable much?! Ignore her more. She'll be wanting u back before u know it. Whether that's what you want is up to you.
Don't stop riding there just cos she's there! She'll think you're pathetic. Just be a man. I reckon she'll soon realise the little boy she's "sort of seeing" is a chump

**JimO** · 27th January 2010, 18:06

Originally Posted by Gareth123

My ex is getting shitty because I "ignore" her when I'm down at riding.

I said hi, asked her how her day was. Asked how her horses were going.

Still get told I'm ignoring her. She was standing over to the side with a horse owner talking about the owners new horse. Apparently I was supposed to go over there, interrupt them, all because she wanted to have a talk with me. How am I supposed to know that?!? I can't win.

She wanted to remain friends, I said we could try but it would be hard to start with and a bit weird.

I seem to be the one jumping through hoops to try and keep the friendship going but I'm really close to throwing in the towel.

Should I keep trying or just call it quits. I don't want to stop riding there as I get my rides at a really good rate but I think I might have to disappear for a couple of months.

Any advice?

tell her to get fucked

**GOONR** · 27th January 2010, 20:06

Originally Posted by jimjim

tell her to get fucked

... by someone else?

Carry on your horse riding, keep it civil and stuff but don't bend over backwards to keep her happy. Do ya own thing.

**Gareth123** · 28th January 2010, 12:50

Originally Posted by steve_t

So you ignored her and she had a tanty to get your attention? Hahaha... predictable much?! Ignore her more. She'll be wanting u back before u know it. Whether that's what you want is up to you.
Don't stop riding there just cos she's there! She'll think you're pathetic. Just be a man. I reckon she'll soon realise the little boy she's "sort of seeing" is a chump

The girl who is "sort of seeing" someone is the girl I want to go out with LOL. My ex threw the tanty. Yes she wants me back. I'm not going back.