Dating

[Kittyhawk]

Things have changed....dating isn't what it used to be.

Friends with benifits, casual flings, where has romance gone?
Is the aim to get laid on every date?

What's happend in society?

[Sparky Bills]

People dont do much "dating" anymore.
I dont think ive been on a proper date in my life! (all 23 years of it!)

Funny old world aint it.

[Mekk]

Romance and relationships only work with respect.

It is of my opinion that a lot of guys these days seem to have lost respect for themselves and for their part in society. There are a lot of "metro-sexual" pussies out there. There is a distinct lack of manliness.

There are loads of other reasons too though. The reversal or elimination of roles in the household, the availability of services to care for you, this PC bs that everyone loves so much, the internet etc etc. You can hire manliness if you want.

You could point the finger at any number of things, but I think underlying it all is a lack of respect.

[Boob Johnson]

Romance and relationships only work with respect.

It is of my opinion that a lot of guys these days seem to have lost respect for themselves and for their part in society. There are a lot of "metro-sexual" pussies out there. There is a distinct lack of manliness.

There are loads of other reasons too though. The reversal or elimination of roles in the household, the availability of services to care for you, this PC bs that everyone loves so much, the internet etc etc. You can hire manliness if you want.

You could point the finger at any number of things, but I think underlying it all is a lack of respect in society.

Too true

But in saying that there is still old fashioned guys out there.







Your looking at one

[Mekk]

Too true

But in saying that there is still old fashioned guys out there.


Your looking at one

Are you asking me out?

[Boob Johnson]

Are you asking me out?

rofl im sorry I bat for the OTHER team

[Sparky Bills]

Romance and relationships only work with respect.

It is of my opinion that a lot of guys these days seem to have lost respect for themselves and for their part in society. There are a lot of "metro-sexual" pussies out there. There is a distinct lack of manliness.

There are loads of other reasons too though. The reversal or elimination of roles in the household, the availability of services to care for you, this PC bs that everyone loves so much, the internet etc etc. You can hire manliness if you want.

You could point the finger at any number of things, but I think underlying it all is a lack of respect in society.

Thats deep man.
Nearly brought a tear to the eye.




I said Nearly!

[Mekk]

Thats deep man.
Nearly brought a tear to the eye.




I said Nearly!

Would you like a turtlene...err, tissue?

[jrandom]

Pfft. I date. You're just not seeing the right guys, Kittyhawk.

(No, that wasn't an offer )

[BMW]

Things have changed....dating isn't what it used to be.

Friends with benifits, casual flings, where has romance gone?
Is the aim to get laid on every date?

What's happend in society?

yes it is a shame that romance is dead

and where do you go for the old normal date to find a single person now?? bars are out!

[jrandom]

and where do you go for the old normal date to find a single person now??

Try trawling KB...

[chanceyy]

everyone would like to find that elusive other half, most of the problem is also apart from respect is that its too easy to go from one relationship to another if things are not working its onwards & upwards

Relationships take work on both sides but when one is doing all the giving & the other is doing all the taking then its not a relationship at all. There is no communication or compromise .. everyone has become very self centred as long as they get their way they are happy if they don't they walk ... sad really

Dating was always that first refreshing bit of getting to know each other, checking each other out .. seeing if you enjoyed the company

Now its all about being a notch on someones bedpost & both men & woman guilty of this ...

Have they been so badly hurt by a previous relationship that they will not allow themselves to be vulnerable again so its easier to have a freind who can scratch that itch rather than seek something more meaningful & deep .. until you met someone who gets your curiosity going & then everything else pales in comparison, & you start wanting to develop something more lasting & real .....

yes I know some of you reading the above will know exactly wot i mean ...

[SlashWylde]

Good question Kittyhawk. I agree that a lot of it comes down to lack respect for ones self and others. Women have always been seen by some types of men as nothing more than objects to be conquered, but it seems these days that women also objectify men and assume that it's all about sex.

One could argue that societies' views on the place of sex in a relationship have changed and that popular magazines and TV shows such as 'Sex in the City' have promoted casual sex as a necessary and desirable part of a young persons social life. More than ever before, sex has become a cheap and easy commodity, 'Mc Sex' if you will. With this mind set, one ends up short changing ones self.

When I go out with a woman I'm not particularly concerned about if and when we'll sleep together. If it's going to happen, then it'll happen in its own good time, and then it'll be between two people who care about each other, possibly even love each other.

I'm more interested in what she's like as a person and whether she stimulates my brain and melts my heart. Do we have fun together? Is she a sweet kind hearted person? Does she make me feel good just being around her? Do we the same interests?

These are some of the things I look for in a person.

Besides anything else, dating is fun! It's fun to meet interesting new people, have casual relaxed dates, and see if a spark happens between the two of you.

[Albino]

Everyone is so self centred and empowered in todays world. Everyone has their list of goals and things that they want in a partner. Our mums told us we deserve the best and that we're wonderful. So when we look at for a partner that doesn't match the list we move on. Even if it's only a couple of items on the "list". Compromise isn't an option when your self-empowered.

This is the perception of a lot of single blokes I know. They go on a date and feel judged rather than both parties relaxing and putting in the effort. So they lose respect, for themselves and for the women doing the judging. And for the next women who they go on a date with, as no doubt she will be the same (and so on).

So go into dating with an open mind. If you make a list, do it of core values that you want the person to have, not job, money, connections, height, pitch of voice, dress sense etc etc. If you find some one doing the same (there are lots around) then you're half way towards a sucessful relationship.

Fuck me i need a beer.

[Coyote]

I'm old fashioned. I don't put out until the 3rd date