Dating

**White trash** · 7th August 2007, 17:56

Here's what ya need to do.

Send a chick (that's just bought a bike off ya) a text saying she's alright and you'll take her out for dinner. Crash your bike playing silly buggers on the Thursday night before said weekend. Send her another text. She finishes a nightshift at 6am, jumps on her new bike, rides 700 kays after 12 hours work. Get Flame (luv ya babe

) to feed her about a million bourbons, two months of commuting to and from Auckland becomes a bit silly, so ya move in together. Rest is history.

Who needs more romance than that?

**Waylander** · 7th August 2007, 18:13

If chicks my age were interested in more than just some dropkick dumb fuck with a flash (read shitty cereal box rice burning wanna be performance) car and gets drunk as fuck every Thursday/Friday/Saturday/Sunday night.,
then I would actually be bothered trying to find 'Mrs Right' but until then if she wants me she can come find me.

**jrandom** · 7th August 2007, 18:34

Originally Posted by White trash

Who needs more romance than that?

All together now, awwwwwwww.

The story's even cuter than it was when I, er, first heard it.

**Toaster** · 7th August 2007, 18:42

Originally Posted by 007XX

Personally, I have only been on the "kiwi" dating scene ofr about a year, 6 years ago, and honnestly, it is the most confusing environment I have EVER seen...

Guys either too shy or too proud to make the first step, girls too prissy or too shy to show real interest...the rules are blurred and so bloody complicated, nothing seems to fit anymore.
There are no longer any clearly delineated man / woman roles...

If a girl has got high standards for her choice of a mate, she's high maintenance.
If a guy wears aftershave and a pink shirt, he's either gay or is a puff...

Bring back the Cowboys I say...Real men, with a strong spine and a moral attitude to boot.

*riding ot in the Sunset with hers...*

Very well said.... as always

**MyGSXF:Me** · 7th August 2007, 18:58

Originally Posted by BMW

yes very sad. Most people live in a throw away world. When something or someone does not serve its purpose we get rid of it. I do not like it

Yep

unfortunately, when "we" do not live up to "anothers" expectations.. "we" are the one then blamed for the relationship failing.. :slap:

But if they bothered to do their own learning & work on their own issues.. instead of just blaming the other for everything

then maybe the problems wouldn't occur in the first place!

or at least may be easily resolved!

It takes TWO.. to committ, to working on building a relationship.. together, & is a lifetime journey of learning & growing

**R6_kid:Me** · 7th August 2007, 19:15

I've spent the last 6-7mths seriously liking one girl, she moved to Dunedin to be with her boyfriend at the time that i started liking her... it took a matter of weeks for that to fall apart, but the rest of her life in Dunedin was all go so she stayed and has been enjoying it. She came back to Auckland for a quick holiday so I jumped at the chance to make an impression while i could.

Picked her up in my shitbox Corolla (cleaned it first)... spend the afternoon in Devonport looking at boutique shops, checked out the waterfront, went to the art galleries etc, then went across to North Head and had a look at the guns, and at the awesome view you get from up there. Took a stroll down into the old tunnels for a bit of trust building, then took a look at the time and decided it would be good to go order dinner, which was pizza from a little pizza shop. Got the pizza and headed up Mt Victoria in the car, got her to close her eyes on the way up... got to the top and parked up facing west... 'open your eyes' and she see's (thanks to my perfect time) the harbour lit up in gold as it was about 5mins before sunset.

She said i scored a 10/10 on the date, blah blah blah... long story short we're still friends. Despite getting along amazingly well things haven't really taken off. She's a straightline christian, and doesn't want to date a non-christian... her dad died in a motorcycle accident, and she hates motorbikes... after the long distance stuff up with her last boyfriend she's not going there again.

To be honest, i've enjoyed being her friend and getting to know her over the last 6mths a hell of a lot more than my 'summer fling' with a member of this site who was more than eager to jump into bed with me, and half of my mates as it would seem too... maybe i'm just old school but i think i now far prefer the romantic, and proper relationship building than the 'lets have sex and see if it works' tack that most people my age have developed - in saying that 007XX can vouch for the fact that i'm forthcoming when i need to be! It's just a matter of finding someone that pushes all my buttons the same way that my friend in Dunedin does and making it work.

Dating 'used to be' about getting to know the person, and to be perfectly honest when you remove the urge to 'pretend to make babies' from the equation you will find something a lot more meaningful from your relationships, and if things don't work out then you still have someone that knows you well and that can actually be your friend instead of having the stigma of a failed sexual relationship over your heads.

**jrandom** · 7th August 2007, 19:30

The best date I ever went on was on 26 February 1999, with a girl I'd known since I was 13, but had lost touch with.

She found out where I worked and called me to ask if we could catch up sometime. We had dinner downtown, didn't want to stop talking, so went and sat up in the Sky Tower until it closed, and just talked and talked some more.

She dropped me at the bus stop at midnight and drove herself home. I remember that bus ride so vividly.

I married her on 18 February 2000.

Unfortunately, life tends to turn around and bite silly cunts like me in the arse. I'm alone again, now.

We still don't want to stop talking, though...

**Busy** · 7th August 2007, 20:56

falling in love is such a wonderful thing, it's the restraining orders that are the bitch

When your young, its easy to get a partner, as you get order it becomes a lot harder, then when you reach the 30/40's you not only have to battle the bra burners but also the 'tooo' independent woman that doesn't need a man, just wants his company or whatever and would be better off with a cat or dog (and BOB).

There must be a woman out there who doesn't want kids, who smokes, who thinks fashion is levi jeans or maybe the latest overalls but can also slip into a dress (yeah like thats the in thing) and can be a girl ... yeah right

**Drew** · 7th August 2007, 21:23

Originally Posted by Busy

There must be a woman out there who doesn't want kids, who smokes, who thinks fashion is levi jeans or maybe the latest overalls but can also slip into a dress (yeah like thats the in thing) and can be a girl ... yeah right

ACTUALLY, THAT DAMN NEAR SUMS MY LADY FLAME UP PERFECTLY, LOOKS FUCKIN FANTASTIC TOO!!!

**Indiana_Jones** · 7th August 2007, 22:02

Well I've been with AJ for 14 months now (I think).

Never looked back.

There is romance out there

-Indy

**Curious_AJ** · 7th August 2007, 22:10

Originally Posted by Indiana_Jones

Well I've been with AJ for 14 months now (I think).

Never looked back.

There is romance out there

-Indy

aww

I agree, there is romance out there.. but the key to finding it, is not to look for it... romance is what comes when you least expect it... and lust is sometimes what clouds your way and makes you do silly things, then end up with STD's

but yeah, never looked back since Indy and I got together either...

*Love you Indy*

**Disco Dan** · 7th August 2007, 22:17

Romance? pah.... died about 2 years ago for me.

I was engaged once... she was perfect for me, everything I could ever ask for... in the relationship for a few years, I proposed... we spent months arranging our wedding, our parents both paid for all our relatives to be flown to NZ for the wedding... the day came... she never showed.

Ever since then i've been screwing anything with tits.

Far out... doesnt quite sound as bad written down... doesnt make it hurt any less though.

**NotaGoth** · 7th August 2007, 22:24

Originally Posted by Disco Dan

Romance? pah.... died about 2 years ago for me.

I was engaged once... she was perfect for me, everything I could ever ask for... in the relationship for a few years, I proposed... we spent months arranging our wedding, our parents both paid for all our relatives to be flown to NZ for the wedding... the day came... she never showed.

Ever since then i've been screwing anything with tits.

Far out... doesnt quite sound as bad written down... doesnt make it hurt any less though.

If thats the mentality of her.. Aren't you GLAD that you didn't marry someone who is like that???? I know it doesn't help much me saying this.. But sure it hurts.. But there is plenty to be grateful for... Better fish in the sea darl

**Disco Dan** · 7th August 2007, 22:26

Originally Posted by XxKiTtiExX

If thats the mentality of her.. Aren't you GLAD that you didn't marry someone who is like that???? I know it doesn't help much me saying this.. But sure it hurts.. But there is plenty to be grateful for... Better fish in the sea darl

Now: yes. Fuck yes. So glad.
Then: I wanted to top myself.

My Dad wanted her cut up in his freezer...