Relationships

[The Stranger:Me]

Though there is one thing worse, that's a liar who is also a hypocrite

[Grahameeboy]

Way I see it is this.
I like to think I am an honest person, but I have lied.

I will lie so as not to hurt someone's feelings.

I will lie to protect the ones I love.

I will lie to someone if I feel they have no right to ask the question and by declining to answer I would effectively answer it anyway.

Sometimes we lie without realising it. My feelings on a subject today may be x, but tomorrow after some consideration they are y.

We would all lie for love - don't say you wouldn't.
If you are faced with a decision between love or a lie what you going to do?

Just apologise to him, I'm sure Gayhameeboy will take you back.

I could comment but would not want to incriminate myself.............or others!!

[Edbear]

I don't see how you could not be honest in a relationship, quite honestly...

I guess I'm a lucky guy. My Missus never asks me if her bum looks fat...

[u4ea]

I dont like lies..truth is always better than being made to look like a plonker!!(or folk who steal..did you take that??? NO!!!!)Have had situations where the truth has hurt but at least its from people I trust and have great freindships with.In regard to a new relationship with a male I am etremely gaurded....Im sure the majority are all rats

[The Stranger:Me]

Simple really:

"What prevents some 'people types' from being honest to eachother"

Just remember Gayhameeboy, To err is human, to forgive, divine.

Maybe you should give JRandom another chance.

[jrandom]

Maybe you should give JRandom another chance.

What is it with people pointlessly capitalising letters in my online handle?

It's 'jrandom', mm kay?

If the idea of a proper noun with a lower-case first letter makes your head explode, just call me Dan.

[Grahameeboy]

Just remember Gayhameeboy, To err is human, to forgive, divine.

Maybe you should give JRandom another chance.

Well he is not home yet............he doesn't reply to my texts..............if he is not back my 8 I am gonna get a takaway.........

[jrandom]

if he is not back my 8 I am gonna get a takaway.........

What, a takeaway rent boy? I think there are websites for that now that it's legal...

[Grahameeboy]

What, a takeaway rent boy? I think there are websites for that now that it's legal...

Yep, you get 2 extra toppings free.............

[u4ea]

What, a takeaway rent boy? I think there are websites for that now that it's legal...

yep RATS......

[riffer]

What is it with people pointlessly capitalising letters in my online handle?

It's 'jrandom', mm kay?

If the idea of a proper noun with a lower-case first letter makes your head explode, just call me Dan.

Dude, welcome to my life. The amount of people who capitalise riffer is astounding.

And FWIW, TTT (tell the truth) is the only law I live by. My short term memory is too shot to live any other way.

[Zuki Bandit]

Relationships are mind fucks, but it's human nature to feel the urge to socialize.

[Drew]

I think most people are honest with each other. But to be honest, if you are going to be 'brutely' honest your are going to piss people off. The trick is knowing when people ask a question do they want an honest answer or an answer that they want to hear. No knowing the difference can destroy a relationship just as easy as lieing.

Skyryder

This man has read "How to win friends and influence people". Any decent sales person, will tell you, sizing people up, and then telling them what they need to hear to buy an item, is the name of the game. People will often comment on how charismatic someone is, think about that, charisma is the ability to get strangers onside, (summed up a lot of course), wether it's social or commercialy motivated.

Noe to tie that into relationships...

When we first become interested in another person and start courting, we lead with our best foot, present ourselves in the very best light possible, and as time goes by, the rest of our personality eases it's way into the equation. Often I hear the term "honeymoon period", and I chuckle, because it usually ends when people begin acting like thier true selves again, what a coincedence.

Here in kiwi land, we dont date, we leap into relationships, and they usually fail, because it takes a while before we really meet the other person in that relationship. Positively though, the ones that do tend to last, are people who knew eachother quite well before the physical attraction surfaced.

I'd like to say this to a couple of women who have posted in this thread about giving up on relationships. Dont make a statment you know could well turn out to be wrong out of frustration, instead, dont give it anty real attention. Looking for relationships will not get you what you desire, (truthfull happy bliss) it will get you a person presenting only thier qualities, and avoiding them could mean you miss out on a person who does posses what you want, and little of what you dont.

My two cents, I should usually just keep my trap shut though

[Xile]

My impression, however, is that the majority of people in this world do not take that approach to life.
I think people who lie are driven by selfishness. A lack of empathy for others, a focus on the immediate gratification of their desires, and a low self-esteem that makes them feel that they need to project a false image of themselves to be accepted.

so true...
too many liars,
too many people that want to protect themselves only in lying but claiming that it is for the happiness of the others!

[Goblin]

so true...
too many liars,
too many people that want to protect themselves only in lying but claiming that it is for the happiness of the others!

I absolutely agree! Lying to someone to "protect" their feelings only makes it worse. Truth may hurt sometimes but not nearly as much as finding out you've been lied to.