Depression...

[Kittyhawk]

Sold my bike.

Am over it.

[Ocean1]

Sold my bike.

Am over it.

Ah babe, hope that's not a sad story. Be gentle with yourself eh?

[surfchick]

Sold my bike.

Am over it.

oh no - i hope you got ok money for it tho...

mind you -**sometimes in life it's better to have 4 wheels under ya than two. respect to you if this is one of those time for watever reason

[raster]

Sold my bike.

Am over it.

Hey new beginning, move on, often a change is as good as anything.

Stay well and hope you will keep in touch.
Great to hear you have friends around you who care about you.

[buellbabe]

Kittyhawk...I am sorry to hear it ain't 'doin' it for ya anymore...

hope that your new choice of direction in life is a positive change for you.

[Kittyhawk]

Bike was picked up yesterday. Didnt feel sad at all, in fact I had no feelings.

If I pick up biking again which I know I will in the future, It will be back to moto x as well as track racing. Starting off small and will work my way up to the real bikes again but on the track.

As for road riding, its too dangerous. Im on a mission when I ride on the road as some of you already know. The medication has stuffed up my judgement scaring drivers, near misses, teasing death in the face.

[buellbabe]

Vifferman... wow...I was gobsmacked reading your post...jeez it takes a lot of strength to put yourself out there so publicly.
I cannot begin to imagine how awful that situation is .

sending positive energy your way...

[Kittyhawk]

Viff you know that headspace where Im at then.

As for you and your son, by the sounds of it you can really communicate to him on a different level. As for him not believing in treatment, he will eventually come round to the idea. It'll take time. In life things are trial and error.

I'd do anything to get rid of my mind.

[Chickadee]

Bike was picked up yesterday. Didnt feel sad at all, in fact I had no feelings.

If I pick up biking again which I know I will in the future, It will be back to moto x as well as track racing. Starting off small and will work my way up to the real bikes again but on the track.

As for road riding, its too dangerous. Im on a mission when I ride on the road as some of you already know. The medication has stuffed up my judgement scaring drivers, near misses, teasing death in the face.

Sorry to hear that you sold the bike and aren't getting enjoyment from riding anymore. Hopefully that will change in time. I think you did the right thing if you think your judgement when ridings impared, we'd rather you kept safe!

Believe me I've been in a dark depression several times, I've managed to recognise when I'm on the slide so I don't get to that point again. Send me a Pm if you ever want to talk.

Take care lots of love .... Chickadee/Christine

[Winston001]

But... I'm not fixed myself, and I have a severely depressed son who I have basically no idea how to help, apart from letting him know I'm there for him.......

Big ups to you Vifferman, that took courage to post and I respect you for it. Damn it must be hard at times. Dealing with your son while in a dark place yourself sounds like a personal version of hell.

So it seems that pharmacological treatment doesn't work for your son? I know it is often only part of the answer and everyone reacts differently. Still, there might be a balance somewhere using some medication.

The way I see it the pills - once you find something which works - rebalance the brain chemicals, which gives a more sound mental state to work on the underlying causes. Trouble is, there isn't a solution for every person.

If it helps, I understand what you are dealing with even if I don't know what more you can do. Sharing the pain helps.

[Kittyhawk]

Im having a couple of thoughts.... This thread has helped many, and made new friendships and it dosent need to become a sticky thread, as it will just keep going... I want to now take this one step further....

Because Im not a qualified professional, I have no intentions in diagnosing, or giving out professional advice. When I speak its purely from experience and is just one opinion. (thats what we have specialists for )

One of these pondering thoughts is getting together once every 2 weeks or every month, talking in a circle and getting things out in the open and off the chest about anything. Just support eachother, have those shoulders physicially there to cry on where need be.

Also after the talking side of it go and do some activites where we can forget the world and have a good laugh!! The likes of mini golf, tenpin, or just going on a walk around somewhere like Mission Bay.

Like I said it's just a thought.

What do ya think??

[Clivoris]

It could definitely work Kitty but would need strong leadership or a "mission statement/kaupapa" that keeps it leaning toward the positive directions you have suggested.

[discotex]

One of these pondering thoughts is getting together once every 2 weeks or every month, talking in a circle and getting things out in the open and off the chest about anything. Just support eachother, have those shoulders physicially there to cry on where need be.

Also after the talking side of it go and do some activites where we can forget the world and have a good laugh!! The likes of mini golf, tenpin, or just going on a walk around somewhere like Mission Bay.

Like I said it's just a thought.

What do ya think??

In my opinion for the first bit I think you'd really want a trained facilitator there so you don't end up doing more harm than good. You'd have people all at different stages of "healing" (hate that word) and that can get volatile and personal real quick.

The second bit I think is the real gem of the idea. Creating a reason to be out doing stuff is enough to make a difference and in theory people could talk more informally knowing everyone was there for the same reason.

[Kittyhawk]

The idea behind it, without a formal specialist involved is to get people feeling confident and just mixing with others who can relate to the dark times...Just turning up is the biggest step...

When things get intense then the guidance would turn to professionals...

Help people to get the help they need. I know that at times I've needed someone to hold my hand the first time I went to counselling etc...And that's something I'd happily do for anyone.

The purpose behind it is to motivate, socialise, and if needed lead those in the dark, to the light.

[Winston001]

A problem shared is a problem halved. You aren't suggesting group therapy, more of a social chat where everyone can feel comfortable. IMHO the best approach is some simple activity which is the focus of the get-together and perhaps a bit of leadership to encourage everyone.