My girlfriend is getting married

[oldrider]

I just want to say... Whats ringing in my head is..... "All I've done this year, All that I've gave has done...... nothing... How come? What have I done wrong?"

Short answer, you just didn't light her fire!

There will be another.

look around and learn how to play with matches! John.

[babyblade250rr]

OMG! E.J I'm sad and alittle confused about your thread, i had no idea that you fancied sum lass? gosh you really kept that to yourself!, you should have told me i could have advised you to some extent! (I'm good at advising others just not myself)

Anyhow my friend if you need someone to talk to you have my celly number just give me a txt and we can meet up, I completely understand where your comming from a similar circumstance happend to me when i was your age (Not that i'm that much older than you) but yeah i know whats going through your head.

And the best advice has already been given by someone else move on as quickly as possible, the more you think about it the worse it becomes fill you day with activities especially with things you love doing it will take your mind off it.

And i know this is something you probably don't want to hear however i have to say it, No matter how much time goes by and no matter how much you think you are over it there will always be days that will trigger this memory and it will come and go!.

But hey thats what makes us human,

Chin up my young friend it ALWAYS works out in the end

[babyblade250rr]

P.S the best part is, If this ever happens again it's not going to feel half as bad as the very first time! that i can garentee.

[Macktheknife]

EJ, sorry to hear of this mate, but this is not the end of the world you know? You got hurt, it happens.
You will meet other women, you will win some and lose some, and then you will find someone special who really rings your bell and you hers. Until that happens, think of it as practice, learning and improving your skills as a life-mate. Right now, you need more practice!
Go and have a good time, and enjoy the adventure that is life, and take good care of yourself.

[Blue Velvet]

OK I lied abit... I tried to show how I felt for her in almost everyway. I really did alot of things this year for her.

Did you ever ask her out, so that she realised it was a date?

Did you actually tell her how you felt?

If you can answer those objectively it might help you next time.

$0.02

[Crisis management]

My wife married her stalker........

Man, you must have been pissed off........


EJ. Hang in there, relationships are like that, sometimes they hurt. But, to quote someone else, "it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."

[ManDownUnder]

EJ - men friends + beer + something to do...

Don't just walk away from it, but work through it. You'll get there man... you'll get there. With respect there are a couple of people on here who are right in the middle of similar pain at the moment, and while I trust their opinions on things - their comments are a tad coloured right now.

Time does heal. It can take a lot of time... but it does heal.

[Curious_AJ]

well, I know this is cheesy but, it's like low-siding your bike when you're first learning to ride... you gotta just get back on it and ride again.

you will take time to heal, but as everyone has said, just do things to get your mind off it. guy friends and activities. and go on your adventure, thats a good way to get it off your chest, go do something exciting!

my heart is with you EJ. take it easy.

[Squiggles]

EJ - men friends + beer + something to do...

Come help me fix my gn's, the two bastards keep ganging up on me. You've got me cell

[jrandom]

Not to put too fine a point on it, mate, it sounds like you sat around pining for this bird and didn't do anything about it!

Next time, be nice, be upfront about what you're keen on, and if she doesn't reciprocate, don't waste time on the matter. There's always another one somewhere.

It's a pity that it'll probably take you another ten years to fully realise the truth of my words, but I suppose that's just the way life goes.

In the meantime, may I remind you that surcease can be rented at very reasonable hourly rates.

[Tank]

In the meantime, may I remind you that surcease can be rented at very reasonable hourly rates.

OMG ......Mom?????.....

[BOGAR]

Mate, I declared my undying love to my ex and she turned me down. The worst thing I do is keep thinking about her. Try and get a few good friends around and go for a blat, do something to try and get your mind off the event. As they say it will hurt and it will get better, but it won’t be a quick fix. Just keep your chin up and looking into the horizon.

[gijoe1313]

:slap: Ej, Ej, Ej, just ride your bike ... all good mate, just keep on going on with going on and ride your own ride .. er life!

I guess you get to live in interesting times and do all those other stuffs! I told you we should have just gone asian dolly bird watching down Queen street!

You know where I live, pootle on down and we can ride some long, windy, roads together ... singing songs like "home on the range" "got on board a 747" or "country roads take me home"

All the best, drop me a PM or a call or a visit anytimes eh?

[007XX]

EJ, I am so very sorry...I am not really a "mushy feelings" type of girl, but I can definitely tell you're in pain.

Time heals all wounds, even though it may not seem like it ever will right now...

Just take your time, and do it one day at the time.

[toebug]

Take up drinking mate!!! Nothing like a mean hangover to clear your head!!