The Adopt a Skidmark thread.

**Brett** · 26th February 2008, 22:29

Originally Posted by Hitcher

More column centimetres have been wasted on this site discussing the pros and cons of the aptly-named skidMark than probably any other member. Indeed the mere mention of this name is enough to initiate a feverish response that will run to hundreds of posts. I am not sure of why some members believe he deserves any serious consideration or respect. Perhaps there is a belief that exorcising the *barking-mad, braindead, irresponsible idiot child* within is cathartic?

Yep I have posted more in one night than I usually will in a week. Hence I am off to bed.

**scumdog** · 26th February 2008, 22:31

Originally Posted by skidMark

One of the current flatmates said i wouldnt last a week.

Everytime i claw my way back up karma kicks me back down.

Ahhh well, at least it can't get worse right!

SM

Is this your life theme song?? is it?

Well I've bad news for you sonny - it's the same for the rest of us.

But we do something about it and get on with life.

What are YOU going to do??

**Grahameeboy** · 26th February 2008, 22:31

Originally Posted by DMNTD

I concur G-man...what's the answer then?

Hey I live each day as it comes...I have stopped planning the future...all I know is that it takes time...or look at this example;

Smoker goes to Doctor, gets told the old boring line "you must stop smoking otherwise..."
Goes away and say "Fuck the Doctor, what does he know"

Goes to a lifestyle guru
"On a scale of 1 - 10, how motivated are you to giving up"
Mmm..."3" he says...
Okay, that is all for now but is it okay if I call you in 2 weeks and see how things are?
Smoker walks away...thinks to himself "that guru didn't pressure me"...maybe I should think about it..."

**Qkkid** · 26th February 2008, 22:31

Originally Posted by Hitcher

More column centimetres have been wasted on this site discussing the pros and cons of the aptly-named skidMark than probably any other member. Indeed the mere mention of this name is enough to initiate a feverish response that will run to hundreds of posts. I am not sure of why some members believe he deserves any serious consideration or respect. Perhaps there is a belief that exorcising the *barking-mad, braindead, irresponsible idiot child* within is cathartic?

dont be so mean

**Grahameeboy** · 26th February 2008, 22:32

Originally Posted by mynameis

The army/navy is a good way to learn and appreciate lots of basic things in life, it does teach you a lot. Been there done that. Did Cadet training for 4 years. However I must stress it's not for everyone.

I am with you on this one 100 % mate but what exactly do you think will make him learn and be accountable and responsible is the million dollar question sourrounding Mark.

Not things on a golden platter, perhaps it's time he learns the hard way? Maybe that's why the parents aren't backing him this time?

Your thoughts?

All the time we think it is a million dollar answer... we will not be able to help him...

Maybe, his parents have not been supportive enough in the past...

**DMNTD:Me** · 26th February 2008, 22:34

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

Hey I live each day as it comes...I have stopped planning the future...all I know is that it takes time...or look at this example;

Smoker goes to Doctor, gets told the old boring line "you must stop smoking otherwise..."
Goes away and say "Fuck the Doctor, what does he know"

Goes to a lifestyle guru
"On a scale of 1 - 10, how motivated are you to giving up"
Mmm..."3" he says...
Okay, that is all for now but is it okay if I call you in 2 weeks and see how things are?
Smoker walks away...thinks to himself "that guru didn't pressure me"...maybe I should think about it..."

Understood, however it hasn't worked to date G.
Hey don't get me wrong I truly do hope that SM has a brain fart and his mind set changes enough for him to be able to help himself...quick.

**zeocen** · 26th February 2008, 22:34

The longer he fucks his life up the longer he stays off the road.

I for one welcome our new karma overlords.

**mynameis** · 26th February 2008, 22:38

Originally Posted by Grahameeboy

All the time we think it is a million dollar answer... we will not be able to help him...

Maybe, his parents have not been supportive enough in the past...

I know too many people in this world who's parents weren't that supportive
when they grew up, they've grown up to be very successfull in life.

Whilst I do believe that it does play a role in life, it's still not the ultimate reason.

How do you get skidMark to get himself motivated, driven and determined? Might actually be a case for DR Phil.

None of us have been able to suss the kid out, what do we know.

**Grahameeboy** · 26th February 2008, 22:40

Originally Posted by mynameis

I know too many people in this world who's parents weren't that supportive
when they grew up, they've grown up to be very successfull in life.

Whilst I do believe that it does play a role in life, it's still not the ultimate reason.

How do you get skidMark to get himself motivated, driven and determined? Might actually be a case for DR Phil.

None of us have been able to suss the kid out, what do we know.

Maybe we try too hard to work him out...kinda hard to explain...

**Brett** · 26th February 2008, 22:41

Originally Posted by mynameis

The army/navy is a good way to learn and appreciate lots of basic things in life, it does teach you a lot. Been there done that. Did Cadet training for 4 years. However I must stress it's not for everyone.

I am with you on this one 100 % mate but what exactly do you think will make him learn and be accountable and responsible is the million dollar question sourrounding Mark.

Not things on a golden platter, perhaps it's time he learns the hard way? Maybe that's why the parents aren't backing him this time?

Your thoughts?

Well just quickly, cause I need to drag my redundant arse off to bed...

I agree, this is not about giving anything away on a platter and solving Marks problems for him. This is about teaching Mark the skills he needs to get himself out of this predicament and to keep himself out.

At the end of the day, he needs to back himself. I am guessing that due to the last load of (mostly self induced) shitty things that have become on him, he must have a pretty low self esteem.

I think Mark needs to be made to realise that the people giving of their time to help him expect him to match it with his own efforts, and that he needs to be shown just what he can achieve if he masters himself. He is a clever guy, and I genuinely believe that he could be very successful, but he needs to have this attitude lit in him. To be honest, I am too tired to give you a coherent and logical answer. Need to think about it and get back to you.

**Finn** · 26th February 2008, 22:44

Talk about a professional victim. Mark, sort your shit out boy and stop getting your mates to do your dirty work. A person your age should be able to hold down a job and have a roof over their head. Stop blaming arseburgers and learn when to shut up. The world owes you nothing.

I've met you before and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just a smart arse. What you really need is a kick up the arse.

Love Finn

**Brett** · 26th February 2008, 22:46

At school I was a bit naughty and had to write a helluva lot of lines in detention. One particular part has stuck with me.

"the longer I live the more I realise that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it"

The other thing I live by is a simple little mantra I use when faced with hard choices:

Weigh up the options, make an informed decision, commit to it. Dont look back.

**Qkkid** · 26th February 2008, 22:46

Originally Posted by Finn

Talk about a professional victim. Mark, sort your shit out boy and stop getting your mates to do your dirty work. A person your age should be able to hold down a job and have a roof over their head. Stop blaming arseburgers and learn when to shut up. The world owes you nothing.

I've met you before and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just a smart arse. What you really need is a kick up the arse.

Love Finn

Maybe you can offer him a job

**Brett** · 26th February 2008, 22:47

Originally Posted by Finn

Talk about a professional victim. Mark, sort your shit out boy and stop getting your mates to do your dirty work. A person your age should be able to hold down a job and have a roof over their head. Stop blaming arseburgers and learn when to shut up. The world owes you nothing.

I've met you before and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just a smart arse. What you really need is a kick up the arse.

Love Finn

Finn, you should be one of said mentors...

**mynameis** · 26th February 2008, 22:50

Originally Posted by Finn

Talk about a professional victim. Mark, sort your shit out boy and stop getting your mates to do your dirty work. A person your age should be able to hold down a job and have a roof over their head. Stop blaming arseburgers and learn when to shut up. The world owes you nothing.

I've met you before and there's nothing wrong with you. You're just a smart arse. What you really need is a kick up the arse.

Love Uncle Finn

Originally Posted by Brett

Finn, you should be one of said mentors...

I think he's summarising what I posted before.