What to do if your girlfriend/wife/partner is upset

**scumdog** · 3rd July 2007, 15:45

Originally Posted by Devil

Getting wound up because "he just doesn't get it" because of stupid hints and beating around the bush is just a waste of time and not fair on anyone.

Say what you mean.

THAT is the big difference between men and women.

Women get huffy when guys don't pick up on 'hints'

Guys just can't grasp that, they're too use to direct comments.

**MSTRS:Me** · 3rd July 2007, 15:48

Originally Posted by avgas

Would you marry some GUY that said this?

And so to the crux of the matter.
Women hunt for a caveman. Once they have him, their mission is to geld him and instil the fine art of "Yes dear, no dear, of course dear' in him. At this point he is no longer considered man enough for her, he gets shown the door, while she goes on to repeat the process.

"Yes dear, I know where the couch is."

**skelstar** · 3rd July 2007, 16:01

Lets face it, nobody's happy really are they?

[edit] not supposed to be a dig at you Kling.

**Joni** · 3rd July 2007, 16:03

Originally Posted by skelstar

Lets face it, nobody's happy really are they?

I am....

After rerading this thread and seeing what some of the men on KB have to say, I realise how lucky I actually am.

**kevfromcoro** · 3rd July 2007, 16:24

Originally Posted by janno

Ahh, bugger it.

I'm going to solve all my man problems and become a lesbian.

I'll just have to get one o'dem strapadiktome thingies . . .

haha..u want a couple of those..my wifes just fucked off and left a suitcase full of them...be in oz soon can bring them with me if u like ........ pm me...lol KEV

**kevfromcoro** · 3rd July 2007, 16:31

Originally Posted by skelstar

Lets face it, nobody's happy really are they?

[edit] not supposed to be a dig at you Kling.

wot are u talking about.iam 100% happy..no women..got a bike.can drink for breakfast if i want...life is sweet.

**Macktheknife** · 3rd July 2007, 16:37

Originally Posted by Courtesan

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex.
It's not a pretty sight but it's a dead givaway to see where their 'real interest lies; your mental well being or the state of their dick. Hope it's the former but don't count on it.
As for you other lot making excuses about the difference of the sexes etc. that's complete and utter crap. The real problem is that you can not keep still long enough to listen. Try expanding your attention span.
Hope all well that ends well.

The sisters are with you.

hmmmm got some baggage have we??????

This is exactly the kind of behaviour that clouds the issue and aggravates the situation, it's called relational blackmail and is extremely unhealthy for all concerned.
I hope your judgement is improving rapidly, long may that be the case.

Guys can be very understanding and supportive and we do our best for those we love, all of them, irrespective of gender. Any woman who cannot see that or chooses to ignore it, does so at her own peril. (not you klingon)

Love the debate this has started.

**NighthawkNZ:Me** · 3rd July 2007, 16:38

Originally Posted by klingon

Move away from the computer (no matter how fascinating that KB thread is)

Say what now...

but... but... but...

**Macktheknife** · 3rd July 2007, 16:41

Originally Posted by klingon

Aaaw Mack, I do appreciate males' good points... that's what makes them so irrisistable!

I didn't mean to focus on male shortcomings by starting this thread, but just to offer some very specific advice for circumstances where they cannot fix the problem and don't know what they can do to help.

I'll be sure to call you if I have any dragons that need to be slayed.

I know you do! And you have a good man, who I'm sure is doing his best.

PS: Dragon slaying on special this month! even baby ones.

**Laava** · 3rd July 2007, 17:03

Originally Posted by Courtesan

In my experiance the only way to get a man's attention is to turn off the sex..

Here is what actually happens; a] If it works, you are with the wrong guy
b]If it doesn't work, you have lost him.
It's called emotional blackmail and NEVER has a positive outcome.

**Curious_AJ** · 3rd July 2007, 18:07

this is a really good thread... great advice for guys.. though i'm sure for them its really hard to follow at times..

for one, I know how they want to fix stuff and say things like "I wish i could fix this" and as a woman, you wish they could too, often enough, but most of the time, its just not that easy...

you both kind of have to work together to make you feel better... (talking in general terms here)

**janno** · 3rd July 2007, 18:23

Agree with the "turning off the tap" = "emotional blackmail".

But I think some women resort to that as often men take sex as "it's all right now, problem is over and done with so got off on that one."

All comes back down to clear communication.

Now where's that tinfoil hat to shove on the other half's head when he gets home - turns him into a telepath doncha know . . .

**Trudes** · 3rd July 2007, 18:40

Noticed my husband hasn't posted in here...
I hand him a bottle of "Hardenthefuckup" and that usually makes him feel better, if not I show him my boobies.

Seriously though, I'm surprised at the amount of sensitive wee things there are here that are good boys and girls and try to help, I'm best left to it to get over my hissy fit in silence, then a hug and some humor will normally fix most things.

**janno** · 3rd July 2007, 18:44

Originally Posted by kevfromcoro

haha..u want a couple of those..my wifes just fucked off and left a suitcase full of them...be in oz soon can bring them with me if u like ........ pm me...lol KEV

Wot? Gone again? I thought she had just come back . . .