Couples that ride

[Trudes]

Paul, that sounds a bit like the same shit we get when people find out we're married but don't have kids, "oh you don't have kids? But you're married, why don't you have some kids?!" Umm cause we made a decision that we don't fucking want any, has fuck all to do with you, now fuck off.
Just keep on doing what makes you happy.

[Smifffy]

Why ?

Most likely because they are usually a bunch of know it alls who look down their noses when she says that she is happy being a pillion and has no desire to get her own bike.

The Moll gets that a fair bit too, but we don't go out of our way to avoid those people. She knows that if she ever decides she wants a bike, she'll get one, until then she enjoys riding on the back.

I think the funniest was when a bunch of women at the pro-rider course kept asking her about getting her own bike. They had a new found respect when she climbed on the back and we went for a couple of laps round the track

[Paul in NZ]

Hmmm maybe he gets grilled over the "why hasn't she got a bike?"question,which is always asked by feminist nazis,who ALWAYS assume the lady WANTS to ride but the couple can afford only 1 bike,and that is his.Had that asked of me many times,answer she doesn't want to ride,fixed that as she is no longer.

Vicki has got her own bike but just hasnt taken to it..... yet.... I keep it rego'd and ready to rock at a moments notice, its a great learner bike, she loves it and a hoot. There are very good reasons to take it easy and ridings just not right for everyone. What we hate is everyone judges your decision based on their own.... It has got tiresome and on occasion a little nasty... Possibly thats down to me having opinions

[Dutchee]

I'm probably one of the nazi feminist thingies that asks other females (pillioning) if they ride. The reason I'll ask is when I was a teen and pillion, I'd loved to have ridden myown bike, but when the guys talked about "one down, the rest up", I had no idea what they were talking about, and thought I'd never be able to ride (I'm a bit less unco than I used to be).

My sister had refused to ever get in a car with me driving after I figured out I had no idea how to brake, turn the wheel, change gear at the same time while turning into a road.

I started riding scooters as they were automatic and that way I didn't really have to ride. I also eventually got a car licence and can change gear

If females or males want to ride pillion and have no interest in their own bikes, that's cool. I will go pillion if it suits (heading out for dinner, some longer tours), but on the longer tours I start yearning for my own bike. I do enjoy watching the scenery, so it's not all bad or I wouldn't do it.

And we used to ride dirt bikes - we'd head up the forest together, go riding with our own friends or I would go on my own if none of my friends turned up. We rarely rode together. End of the day we'd talk about our adventures.

Road riding we'll do together or separately, I like for him to have his own time to go fanging, and enjoy my time tootling on my own. We also race/ride buckets (he races, I ride), which means we sometimes barely speak to each other on the day as we're in different grades.

I do know the feeling where you feel put down because you're a pillion, I feel that when I'm not riding, but whatever.

When I do ask if a female rides or not, it's an interest to see if she's keen but not sure how to go about it or just genuinely happy being pillion. I also have a lot of females look at me with my helmet/bike and comment how they're envious - usually checkout operators and so I try to quickly encourage them. Each to their own though

[Dutchee]

Paul, that sounds a bit like the same shit we get when people find out we're married but don't have kids, "oh you don't have kids? But you're married, why don't you have some kids?!" Umm cause we made a decision that we don't fucking want any, has fuck all to do with you, now fuck off.
Just keep on doing what makes you happy.

Trudes, one way to shut them up and stop asking the dumb question, is to reply, "we've been trying but I keep miscarrying". They will then walk away feeling stink and you can have a good laugh.

We kept being asked that after we got married, and I think the last time my MIL asked was when I turned 40. She's got grandkids, she don't need any from me.

A cousin had that included in her vows (no kids) and she asked me after about a year as to when the hell the question would stop. I told her to do the miscarriage answer, but she's too "nice" to do that.

My gynaecologist also told me that after an operation, there was "nothing to stop me now having kids" and was horrified when I told him "except for the reason I don't want any".

[hellokitty]

Hmmm maybe he gets grilled over the "why hasn't she got a bike?"question,which is always asked by feminist nazis,who ALWAYS assume the lady WANTS to ride but the couple can afford only 1 bike,and that is his.Had that asked of me many times,answer she doesn't want to ride,fixed that as she is no longer.

Why would people assume that? I think it would be nice to be able to relax and trust enough to be a pillion... I tried but I can't do it, I feel so terrified being a pillion. Then I feel bad because it is a bit insulting to my husband, because it is not that I don't trust him... but I don't like the lack of control.

Paul, that sounds a bit like the same shit we get when people find out we're married but don't have kids, "oh you don't have kids? But you're married, why don't you have some kids?!" Umm cause we made a decision that we don't fucking want any, has fuck all to do with you, now fuck off.
Just keep on doing what makes you happy.

When I got married, everyone then assumed we would have babies. My husband has 3 kids, and I decided 20 years ago that I didn't want kids. I have been tempted to say that I can't have them. The thing that bugs me is when people say you are selfish if you don't have kids! WTF?

[scumdog]

The thing that bugs me is when people say you are selfish if you don't have kids! WTF?

It's a bit like that Easops Fable about the fox that lost ts tail.

They all want to see you in the same pickle they're in!

[sharp2183]

I have taken my girlfriend to the The Farm twice for her birthday & I must admit to getting enormous satisfaction & pleasure helping her to ride. I was a bit worried which way it would go, the potential for unfun was on my mind. A bit like being taught to drive by your dad if you know what I mean...

My girlfriend has just got into riding (just went to her second track day). She loves it, but like the comment above, it was a hard decision whether or not to actively push her in that direction. She would have made it there eventually but still!

But its all good so far and its great having another bike in the garage!

[Paul in NZ]

I love seeing people on their own bikes BUT there are some people who (for various reasons) just dont want to get behind the bars and another group of people (male and female) who just plain shouldn't....

Anyone CAN ride - just like anyone can drink alcohol but its just not a good mix for some folks. Pressuring people into doing things often has very serious consequences...

At one point a lot of our riding companions (the guys) were pressuring their wives onto their own bikes ONLY so they could ride faster themselves. The wives got left behind (beginners) and wondered how was this going riding together? One woman was just simply dreadful at riding as she was fucked if any mans was A telling HER what to do and B going to be better at anything... I tried once to be helpful, was told in no uncertain terms to fuck off.... I didnt bother visiting her in hospital.... It wasnt her fault of course....

[rachprice]

I hate being on the back! Though funnily enough feel safe on the back with pete (yes I'm sick and twisted!)

I like to do my own thing but we ride together, it's good

Can wait to start racing vmx together!

[CatTheBrat]

I haven't enjoyed being a pillion all that much, jsut feels a bit unstable to me, on the back of an R6 anyway - but that may be because it has just been on the back with a mate, and not the significant other... That position is still vacant... heheheeheee

[CatTheBrat]

I have just started dating again. I must be mad as it's a mix bag of people out there. But one thing I know for sure if that I would very much prefer it if someone I meet rides too. I have had many a friends tell me to meet men outside of motorbiking. But if I did so, then how would one ever understand when I want to bugga off for a day on my bike on my own. Or head off down country on a solo road trip as I so very much love doing? If I was lucky enough to meet a partner that also rides, I imagine hitting the roads together would be a lot of fun indeed. Trips away too. But I would always need to be able to ride alone too. Especially on those beautiful winters nights when you are sitting at home just longing to ride to a beautiful spot somewhere for some fresh air. I do think it would be great to be able to share ones biggest passion with their partner.

I think my expectations may be too high. What on earth have I got myself in for?

I agree with you Katie! I don't think it would last if I started going out with someone that does not ride, I'd want to be on the bike on every nice day possible! I think it would eventually cause problems with 'me or the bike' type of stuff.. I couldn't give up the bike!

[newhere]

I enjoy riding with my partner and I enjoy riding by myself. Now that she has her own bike its much better for both of us as the numb ass multiple stops on trips is no more and although we are together we can still do our own thing.

I love riding with grant now i have my own bigger bike and can keep up for the most part , also now i have more confidence to go it alone i am loving that to.

Yeah i used to drive him nuts with numb bum wriggling lol. He's so tolerant, we had a great weekend and did my longest trip from Matamata to Whangarei in one day and he didn't get grumpy with me at all

[Mom]

I love riding with grant now i have my own bigger bike and can keep up for the most part , also now i have more confidence to go it alone i am loving that to.

Yeah i used to drive him nuts with numb bum wriggling lol. He's so tolerant, we had a great weekend and did my longest trip from Matamata to Whangarei in one day and he didn't get grumpy with me at all

Tis a wonderful thing for certain. I really enjoy being out and about riding as a couple. You guys make a great pair And who says we cant ride our own rides as a couple, he does not have to wait for me unless he wants too I dont have to go faster than I want unless I want too

All good fun!

[swbarnett]

And who says we cant ride our own rides as a couple,

The need to "ride your own ride" became very clear to me on one trip my wife and I did. She was in front and just taking it easy. I started to get target-fixated on her instead of watching the road. Damn near lost it on a couple of corners before I decided I had better get out in front and break the trance.